What the hell does my BF want from me and these other girls?

Sounds like you don't trust him at all. Why would you be going through his emails?
He probably wants friendship if he has made it clear to her that he does not want a sexual relationship with her. Maybe he wants to tell his feelings to someone who is not so valuable to him, without there being any risk of losing his best friend (you!).
Why should it be wrong for a guy to have friends? Is he not allowed to decide for himself who to be friends with?

Maybe i'm missing the obvious, But is it possible he just wants a platonic girl friend?

You sound like a friend I used to have. Why do you have his password? Why are you looking through his stuff? Don't you trust him? The less you trust him and the more you try to control him -- *the more he will pull away.*

I'm pretty much always the "single girl" in my group and I've had plenty of guy friends come to me for advice about their girlfriends/families/lives, etc. There's nothing wrong with having a friend of the opposite sex as long as it doesn't get fishy. And if it does, why are you sitting there analyzing it? Confront him and move on if you think he's not there for you.

Honestly, I don't know why girls like you and my former friend stay in relationships like this. Don't you want to enjoy yourself instead of putting yourself through this agony? Be good to yourself, you deserve it and you're the only one who has control over it.

He probably wants sex.

that orrrrrr

there could be some trust issues involved..

i mean i could be totally wrong but from what you've put it appears that maybe he sees her as a friend but him being a guy she thinks he may want more...

like i said i could be wrong but i personally dont have alot to go from in this scenerio

and also if your trying to break up with him....what does it matter...?

He wants sex, no matter what he says.

wow- are you screwed up. This guy trusted you with his passwords and now you are misconstuing his emails based on what you are imagining in your mind. The guy clearly told the girl he didn't want sex. Maybe he likes her as a friend or a connection. How sad of you. You really should let the guy go because you are not ready to have a comitted relationship with him. He doesn't deserve to be trapped, and it sounds like it is only going to get worse.

men think of sex ALOT my bet he's looking for some strange....

sorry

sounds like honesty problems between you both.
Maybe some talking might resolve a lot of this

You should speak with him.

okay just left field out here... why don't you ask him? I know what a concept!!!

right field this time.. has he mentioned a new name lately? If he has, he is trying to tell you that he made a friend that he does want to introduce to you but thinks maybe you will flip out.

and picking flowers in the field... if he hasn't mentioned her... sorry yeah he's looking to get his dickie sticky.

and finally.... maybe he's looking for a girl friend for you? ya know spice it up a bit? He might not want sex from her but honey trust me guys always wanna watch. Okay so I am joking but it technically could be a valid option.

My husband did the same thing to me....he met all these women, who he claimed to me, were just "friends"....yet, acted like all was well with he and I....

Come to find out, he was lining up the next woman, for when things with us fall apart (learned this in counseling)....He has a personality disorder, which leaves him terrified that he will be alone...because in his history with relationships, he ended up alone....and they moved on....so, he naturally thought this one would be no different....

With this personality disorder, he pushed me away emotionally at times....yet, wouldn't leave...then, he would have clingy times...where he seemed afraid I would leave him....and he couldn't stand the thought of being alone...so, he hooked up with women on the internet, "just in case".....he even had some ads in singles websites, and personals, saying he was single, looking for his soulmate...(we were still newlyweds)

Good luck to you....that's all I can say.

why aren't you talking to your man about this issue? also, not all men who are talking to women online are in it to cheat. sometimes they just want friends or people to talk to & if that's the case, then you should ask about her & possibly meet the chick to see where she's (her mind/intentions) at. it could be benign & then again it could not. trust your gut & do what you feel you need to do.

are you satisfying him emotionally? they usually go else where for that if he is already getting enough sex at home.

My boyfriend did the same thing a few years ago and it actually happened 3 different times with different girls. From what I understand after I confronted him was that nothing happened physically. We were engaged during the first time (since then we broke it off but are still together) and he was talking to some girl and telling her she was beautiful and everything a girl likes to hear. He told me the reason it happened was because he was nervous that I would leave him. The two times after that the reason was that he could talk to them without caring what they thought whereas with me he didn't want me to think badly of him. I think I was a little tough on him and tried to take charge too often which made him feel less manly so he talked to them like some big shot guy with no feelings because they didn't know him as anything but some strong military guy. We spoke with a counselor and she said it was very possible that he did it for those reasons so I just went with that. I don't really have any advice except to keep an eye on it and make sure he isn't disrespecting you any more than he is right now. I couldn't handle even the emotional cheating so I confronted it pretty much as soon as I found out.

maybe he's not ready!!! Think about it all the way through you'll get your answer. Believe me .