There's nothing wrong with being angry or even disagreeing with decisions where you come out on the short end of the st ick. If this is a big issue for you and you are a believer then tell it God. As a couple decisions should be dicussed especially if they're ones that can affect your family.
Grow up and forget about relationships ba<x>sed on submissive or passive or whatever. Live with your equal or not at all. No one benefits from living their life with someone inferior to them. And that's what you're really talking about--living with good enough instead of risking alone by wanting someone who forces you to move up. Either equal or it's over. Why relationships should change like socks. Unless you are so lucky as to meet someone in your twenties who will experience life and change and grow at exactly your rate. And sadly submissive needs to leave. Very few people who hold all the cards let go of their hand. But, they can't play when there is only an empty chair. The greatest thing about being submissive is that you control the game. My shrink calls it being a target or a sniper. Target never needs a sniper but sniper always needs a target. Target can walk. If it doesn't well, then why gripe?
You need to speak up. In any kind of relationship, dom/sub or regular, it is important that all views be heard and understood. You are submissive because you agree to be. But that does not mean you gave up your right as an individual. Being a submissive is about being strong enough to trust someone else with you. Being a dominant is about being caring enough to ensure that the trust of the person submissive to them is not taken for granted.
Doom despair and agony on me...get slapped stupid and silly, your choices start making some.
Why should you be submissive?
i think i'll go scream in my pillow now