What types of red flags should you look for when dating someone?

He still lives at home
He/she never invites you over
He/she is moving to quickly
He/she constantly talks bad about their ex
Excessive parental attachment
He/she is fresh out of a relationship
He/she has an explosive temper

If they try to control you in any way, that is a HUGE red flag.

If he's got a rope, a van with blacked out windows and an old rag, run away :-P

Seriously, controlling people, self obsessed people and players are my red flags.

when they start referring to "sister wives" or polygamy. that now gives me the creeps.

The only red flags that really matter are the ones that indicate that someone could be dangerous. Everything else is just a matter of getting to know the person and deciding if you like him/her. What could be a social "red flag" in a relationship can vary from person to person. But the signs of danger from another human being are universal.

In his book (often recommended by me) The Gift of Fear, Gavin DeBecker lists 7 signs that indicate that a man (or woman) you meet could be a dangerous person. These are those signs:

FORCED TEAMING = When a person tries to pretend that he has something in common with a person and that they are in the same predicament when it is not really true. The main sign of this is the word "we," when there is no genuine connection between the two people having the conversation.

CHARM AND NICENESS = People often forget that the word "charm" is a verb. Debecker recommends that instead of thinking, "He is charming," it is better to think, "He is charming me." Charm is NOT a character trait and it is often used to manipulate. Honest people rarely feel the need to be extra charming or friendly to win someone over. Too much charm and niceness is a red flag.

TOO MANY DETAILS = When people are not being honest, they tend to add too many details.

TYPECASTING = A mild insult used to get a person who would otherwise ignore you to talk to you. Example, "You're probably not the kind of person who'd ever do something silly just for fun, right?" The idea is to put the person listening on the defensive so that he or she will do something to prove the speaker wrong.

LOAN SHARKING = Giving unsolicited help and expecting a favor in return. When someone has just done a favor for us, even if it's one we did not request, we tend to feel obligated not to refuse a request in return and we feel less inclined to argue with him/her.

AN UNSOLICITED PROMISE = A promise to do (or not do) something when no such promise has been asked for. Usually, an unsolicited promise will be broken. Example: "I promise I'll leave you alone after this," means you will not be left alone. An unsolicited promise of "I promise I won't hurt you," usually means the person does intend to hurt you.

DIISCOUNTING THE WORD "NO" = Refusing to accept a refusal or rejection. DeBecker considers this the most significant indicator for future violence or serious trouble. Often the potential predator will try to overcome a "no" over something minor, such as a choice of food from the menu at a restaurant. This a test to see how the potential victim will act when "No" is ignored. The worst reaction you can give to someone who is ignoring your refusal is to give him ever weakening responses and then give in.

For more information about this, read DeBekcer's book The Gift of Fear.

When you first start dating, both are putting out the best of yourselves, if you notice something when you are first dating, don't ignore it, it only get's worse!

I live at home, I'm 29, I've had **** circumstances that led me here, and I have a girl of 2 1/2 years who lives on her own who doesn't hold it against me. Although finally this'll be changing soon. I don't think living at home should be a red flag at all. This Economy is still ******, I don't care what the news says.

swastika tattoo's, constant sniffing and or scratching,

He is on his phone the whole time when you are on a date, never keeps promises, you are always having inconclusive conversations, borrows money to buy his small brother fancy sneakers which are not really necessary (sign of exploitation), is not eager to meet your family esp parents

a man who always has to get his mothers approval..