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What would I do if you found out your 13 year old daughter is pregnant by a 13 year old boy? Abortion not an option.

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  1. thisisevenlessfunnow - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by thisisevenlessfunnow Jul 4th, 2012 at 11:11AM

    Abortion is an option, in fact it is the best option.

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  2. shantilla - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by shantilla Dec 19th, 2012 at 9:41AM

    the ONLY option

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  3. Goldmember69 - 41-45 years old - male

    Reply by Goldmember69 Jan 17th, 2013 at 12:57PM

    I agree, its the only option. People get hung up on the moral delema of Abortion, but never take into account the Financial impact and quality of care. How do teenagers support a child, with no jobs or skills? Do they suck off the welfare system? What quality of life does a child have in a situation like this?

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  4. Janeybird75 - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by Janeybird75 Jul 3rd, 2012 at 12:01PM

    It happens it's called real life.
    The media has forced kids to grow up too quick.
    This is not a new situation just a sad one as you wouldn't wish it for either of them.
    Firstly the deed is done so accept it
    Secondly discuss and plan for all involved.
    Adoption is an option, but if your daughter wants to keep this baby she will need your support.
    Who will do the child care, pay for all things a baby needs.
    I suggest that you meet with the boys parents too.
    This does not have to be a tragedy! If both families can come together it can work out.
    Good luck
    Please though don't forget to ensure your daughter gets sorted out with reliable contraception as soon as the baby is born.

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  5. Mahal1023 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by Mahal1023 Jul 3rd, 2012 at 10:41PM

    I think Janeybird said it the best. I do have a 12-year old daughter that I have worked hard at building a strong relationship with. Im always aware of where and who she is with. Most of the time I am there supervising and I am extremely selective as to the other adults I will entrust her with. Sex is not a taboo word or subject in my house. Even with all that there are no guarantees as I've seen young girls with great parents still get pregnant. I pray everyday that this will not happen to her. Most importantly I try my best to guide her so mistakes she makes wont be life changing ones.

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  6. johnnywillsave - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by johnnywillsave Jul 3rd, 2012 at 11:33AM

    I don't know what you would do. But I would have her get an abortion.

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  7. noellecasely - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by noellecasely Mar 28th, 2013 at 12:03PM

    You would "HAVE" her get an abortion/Will you set aside HER right to choose? Or can you only chose to HAVE an abortion, not decline it?

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  8. mrsdahmer - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by mrsdahmer Jul 4th, 2012 at 6:28AM

    HOW ON EARTH is ANYONE supposed to know what YOU would do?

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  9. BabzEsq24 - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by BabzEsq24 May 8th, 2013 at 4:35PM

    mine!! BA

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  10. goliathtree - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by goliathtree Jul 3rd, 2012 at 1:10PM

    You would do the best you can. Unfortunately, no matter how much direction we give our kids, we cannot leash them or control them all the time. Obviously it is too late to guide the kid about the consequences of sex. She is about to learn first hand. But perhaps you can prevent further damage to both your daughter, her boyfriend and the grandkid to be.

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  11. primnproper - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by primnproper Jul 3rd, 2012 at 2:42PM

    Here here, omg ! i wrote my reply before i read down to yours but uncanny,spot on.

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  12. joe1059 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by joe1059 Jan 12th, 2013 at 10:43PM

    This happened to my daughter at 15. My wife and I were devastated to say the least. We faced the problem head on, researched all options and listened to my daughters input. 8 years later they are still together and going strong. No, it doesn't take a village to raise a child - but a strong family certainly helps...

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  13. noellecasely - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by noellecasely Mar 27th, 2013 at 2:45PM

    Way to go!!! We're to ready to kill, aren't we?

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  14. sierra33 - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by sierra33 Jul 3rd, 2012 at 3:47PM

    I am soooo grateful I don't and will never have kids. I vote for adoption. 13 is wayyyy too young to have a responsibility like that....

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  15. DenteAvvelenato - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by DenteAvvelenato Jul 3rd, 2012 at 2:42PM

    Dozerdan is greenbare's new profile, if you don't know who greenbare was... he was banned from EP for bullying members, promoting ********** and rape of wives, he also is a nudist and enjoys being a boy scout leader.

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  16. DenteAvvelenato - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by DenteAvvelenato Jul 3rd, 2012 at 2:43PM

    That's right he likes to promote pe do phil ia

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  17. DenteAvvelenato - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by DenteAvvelenato Jul 3rd, 2012 at 2:54PM

    Yeah the name changes but the sick message doesnt

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  18. PlainMeJustMe - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by PlainMeJustMe Jul 3rd, 2012 at 12:30PM

    The Mistake Is Already Been Made Wether It Was Because You Failed Or She Wanted To Grow Up Is Done Is To Late To Take It Back. Keep The Kid And Help Her Raise It. Have Her Get A Part Time Job And Go To School So That Way She Can Finish Her Education And Have Some Money To Support That Child.

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  19. caitlynann24 - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by caitlynann24 Jan 12th, 2013 at 10:52PM

    Considering that abortion isn't an option, that leaves either parenting or adoption. I would take my child's input into consideration, as it is ultimately her life. She will make her own decisions to regret or embrace. Either is not an easy road, however regardless of her choice, she will need strong family support. Ultimately, your daughter is the parent of this life, not you, so it must be her choice. You are merely there as a network of help, love, advice, and support.

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  20. ChipmunkErnie - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by ChipmunkErnie Jul 3rd, 2012 at 11:37AM

    Probably adoption, but maybe raise the child. The 13-year old sure isn't in a position to raise it. And why isn't abortion an option?

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  21. thehummingowl - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by thehummingowl Jul 3rd, 2012 at 11:34AM

    My daughter is almost 15 and I have thought about this many times before. I'm still young, 38, so we could keep the baby and raise him/her all together. Or adoption. I'm an adoptive child too...

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  22. RebornStar - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by RebornStar Jul 4th, 2012 at 10:18AM

    Looks like youve done a good job so far! big pat on the back to you... any pointers to us who have this coming up in the not so far future? I have 3 young girls eldest is 10, and I think im doing alright, but any guidence in this matter would be greatly appreciated.

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  23. vibrante - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by vibrante Dec 29th, 2012 at 7:14PM

    I am a little surprised with the meanness of many of the answers.

    What is done is done. Love her and pray for wisdom about it. I believe often in these cases the Grandmother and Grandfather become mom and dad.

    It is a very scary situation, and traumatic, but I agree that killing the little life , innocent one because of a mistake is not acceptable.

    May God give you Grace, wisdom and strength to face this keeping your relationship with your daughter strong. She needs you to be strong for her. She is going to face things she is not prepared for as you know.

    It could happen to any parent. This culture does a great job of selling sex without consequences, a big lie.

    I send you a hug.

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  24. Slydoggie98 - 51-55 years old - male

    Reply by Slydoggie98 Jan 22nd, 2013 at 1:41PM

    If I were in this situation, I would hope to deal with it with someone like you. You seem to care not only for the daughter, but also the baby's needs and rights.

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  25. vibrante - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by vibrante Jan 22nd, 2013 at 9:35PM

    Thank you. I did not have to face this particular issue with my children, thank God, but I have seen and experienced many other very painful issues, and know their is no place for self- righteousness, just attempting to respond with Grace and wisdom. There by the Grace of God, go I. There are very gifted people out there I know that are called to support families through these things. I thank God for them.

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  26. Takumii - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by Takumii Jul 4th, 2012 at 10:54PM

    sell the baby in an auction

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  27. jeanemae - 26-30 years old

    Posted by jeanemae Jul 3rd, 2012 at 11:59AM

    I would never force a life choice like this on my child so she would be able to act according to her own conscience even if it's abortion or keeping it. Giving birth at such a young age can be quite risky for some. Also being a rational adult, I would see that this is at least partially my fault if my daughter had been with boys at that age....I clearly failed to teach her proper self respect because that is quite contrary to the morality I would have endeavored to teach.

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  28. jeanemae - 26-30 years old

    Reply by jeanemae Nov 29th, 2012 at 11:47AM

    I have never believed that to be true. Nor, do I see any evidence of it. The fact of the matter is a 13 year old is a child and should not consider herself the right age to have a baby. Not every pregnancy can be avoided. But clearly the environment one brings one's child up in does have an effect on the choices they make. Sex doesn't just happen..people participate.

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  29. BarvoDelancy - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by BarvoDelancy Jul 3rd, 2012 at 11:51AM

    Oof, heavy.

    Adoption is the best option. People shouldn't be held to mistakes they make at 13 for the rest of their life and raising a child severely limits what she can do with her life once she's out of high school.

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  30. GreenShades - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by GreenShades May 1st, 2013 at 12:19PM

    Don't get an abortion at anytime i believe a person has a soul as long as there is some type of body or form. Go and put it up for adoption but in the same return be ready for the pain you and her will have to be getting into its going to suck and isn't easy never seeing the child you had even if your young you still love your own child. i would say keep it but 13 years old is to young to soon.

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  31. weirdkelsee - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by weirdkelsee Apr 22nd, 2013 at 12:00AM

    I had my first daughter when I was 13, and I kept her. My mom kicked me out of the house and I went to live with my grandfather.

    If one of my daughters came to me at 13 and said they were pregnant my main concern would be making sure she was ok.

    I am with you though abortion is not the answer but I know having a baby that young is very hard not only on the girl but on the family. I was very blessed that my family chose to help (except my mom). Have you looked into adoption. There are many different routes in just that

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  32. noellecasely - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by noellecasely Apr 19th, 2013 at 3:12PM

    Abortion is NEVER an option!!! At thirteen the boy are well as the girl isn't ready. It becomes your job to raise the child as yours----allow them BOTH the right not to take on more than they can handle---mainly for the baby's sake as well as theirs. Remember there are TWO of them The father MUST be part of this. THe baby will be YOURS. The children will need to live with this---it's the only kind of responsibility they're able to assume. Then all of you go out and campaIgn to change society so it will deal with this problem as it should be dealt with. Remember abortion kills the only party in the scenario who you KNOW is innocent!

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  33. HeSlayYourBanjo - 31-35 years old

    Reply by HeSlayYourBanjo Oct 16th, 2012 at 11:08AM

    Please don't try and force your beliefs on others. Abortion IS an option. Maybe not for some people but that is your CHOICE just like it is for every woman in this country. This is not a debate about abortion so please don't make it that

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  34. blehtolife - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by blehtolife Nov 27th, 2012 at 11:38PM

    remember it is innocent because it isn't conscious.

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  35. poisonivy69 - 56-60 years old

    Posted by poisonivy69 Apr 14th, 2013 at 10:16AM

    HELP HER KEEP THE BABY AND I DO ALL I COULD

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