Tell everyone you converted to Judaism and you no longer do Christmas.
if you're not comfortable with it.. tell your family to invite him to thier houses... then he doesn't ruin your christmas as well...
sorry.. *grins* i have one of those as well... and that's what i would do if the situation came up.
why has he been estranged? he's family yow invite him over imagine if you where that person, realize that everyone ***** up and you'd also be thankful to get another chance ^^
Do, and have 911 on speed dial
and don't let anything that happens or is said to get to you or anyone else.
I hadn't ever thought of that...damned good idea
I think I'd call him and ask if we could meet up for a coffee and sort it out. Then mention that the family would love to have him over for Christmas dinner.
Incidentally, he could accept OR refuse. It's his life too.
He could, of course, say no to coffee as well, but if you don't ask him, he can't say either yes or no. (He may also be waiting for someone else to make the first move :o)
I would go and patch things up with him.
Then don't go.
Then don't invite him
Invite him, what the hey. Live dangerously!
Can't give you advice without a lot more info, but it sounds like a good thing to do ...