What would you do if you believed your husband was cheating on you but couldn't find any proof or evidence?

I am only speaking for myself here, but I wouldn't want to let my marriage go without confronting things and fighting for them... which may mean a talk that is not a fun one to have. One that starts with, "I am scared to bring this up, because I promised I wouldn't hang this over our heads forever, but I can't help feeling the way I do..." and ends with him talking at that same level.
You will have to decide whether you believe the words you are hearing, and whether this really is something you can get past (innocent or guilty)-- because if it is not, that is no way for you to live. :o(

If I ever have the thought, that is all the proof I need.

I've had that "feeling" many times...and EVERYTIME I was right.....Especially if you have been through this before with him....YOU KNOW....

The way I "proved" what I felt? Spyware on the computer.....bagged him the very next day.

ask them...judge their response and then dump them. i know of at least one man you wouldn't have to worry about cheating

This is a toughie. I would have walked the first time. Follow your instincts, but very carefully. The past is a pretty good indicator of future (present) behavior.

What exactly is spurring this feeling? Find out if it is all within YOU, or if he is really DOING things to make you doubt his fidelity.

People can change. But the bottom line is what is his true character. And you've been with him long enough to answer that.

If you dont want to ask. This is what you can try -

1. Check cell phone bills
2. Check his credit card/bank stmts for suspicious spending
3. Install keylogger on his laptop/desktop

If you gut feeling says he is cheating, most probably he is.

You knew the answer to this question before you posted it here. Your feeling is right. You don't want to believe it at this time because you are afraid of the changes that will happen in your life when you confront the issue.
No hurry.
You need to get your own check book and bank account.
Start saving now.

Many Blessings to you and yours...

A man can change- but you don't want philosophical discussion here- obviously SOMETHING is making you think this NOW or you wouldn't be thinking it!!! THAT SOMETHING, whatever it is IS the EVIDENCE! You need to discover what exactly is making you think that, make a list if it is more than one thing and then once you have figured it out- evaluate each thing to see if it is GOOD EVIDENCE, or if you might just be scared over something you don't understand or letting your fears exaggerate something.

IE it could be a thought that it is making you think this, it could be a change in his behavior or the way he looks at you, it could be something someone else said or did- whatever it is, get specific about it, and then examine it closely. Then you will have your answer. The examining part of this could be the hardest part- it can take time - but what you are trying to do is see it in the proper context. Once you have done that you will be able to know what is happening and why you are thinking this. You will also learn to trust yourself and be able to do this for any time you wonder about the truth of a thought that comes into your head. Good luck!

Follow your gut but get proof, if you can.


A classic sign is if he constantly accuses YOU of cheating, and is really jealous and possessive.

The exact same thing happened to me:

I took him back loads after his constant cheating but got totally fed up. He's the type who can't take no for an answer so I asked our group of friends to watch out. Eventually he did it again (stupidly in front of them when I wasn't around) and one friend insisted he tell me or else she would. So he did. And so I left.

And he still couldn't understand why I left - fought and begged and pleaded for me to stay. But I'd had enough of his cheatin' ways.

And y'know what? He STILL treats his women like sh*t.

Not all men are the same, but I believe once a cheater, always a cheater.

well, I would assume he wasn't cheating unless there was evidence that told me otherwise. Cheating is hurtful and it makes life horrible. Why put yourself through the awful emotions if you don't have to? BTW, if you continue to accuse him of cheating and he truly isn't, he may do it just to spite you.

Start asking yourself why you think this. In my experiance and with a family members who have been married several times, if you think he is cheating with no proof or evidence than it maybe you who is looking for a reason to do this yourself. It happens quite often, some couples get divorced over this and come to find out the accuser was trying to have a fling of their own. Who in your life are you maybe attracted to that you maybe trying to justify.

Itz better to based it on facts, u may hire detectives to do it 4u.Bc0z if u w0nt and d0ing n0thing,ur juz wasting ur time and fo0ling/let ur self in d0ubt l0nger than making a remedy instead.-i cheated also b4.But i changed already.I love a guy that because im madly inlove with him,i d0nt do the things i used to do., people change,but it dependz still to the pers0n. -my opini0n-take care n g0odluck!!

I would try to find out if it were real. If it is, or if he can't prove to you that he's not, you should probably leave. you shouldn't be with someone you can't trust, and given his past history, you should have left him long ago anyways....he's brought this suspicion upon himself, even if he isn't doing anything now.

well if you cant find anything and he still takes care of you and still makeing love to you the same or better well i think you are worrying too much and you asked him he said no do you realy trust and love him then leave it alone

ask him, if I still believe him then i would hire a detective but by then it's already time for a seperation, why be with someone you don't trust

Every breath you take & every move you make, every vow you break, every claim you stake, I'll be watching you...
until
Lipstick on your collar, told a tale on you..