What would you do if you didn't think your friend was safe with someone?

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Assuming you've already made your opinion of this man known to your friend...
I would try to ask her where she is going with this guy by asking her and citing reasons other than thinking this guy is sketchy (which he is). Tell her you want to know in case someone needs to contact her or so her daughter can call her (if her daughter is not coming along and is being looked after by a friend).
Whenever you talk to her in general, try not to criticize the guy too much, just place an emphasis on you wanting the best for her and being concerned about her. She can't get help until she wants it, so just be there for her and remain supportive. Being critical of this man in front of her will only drive a wedge between you and your friend and won't allow you to help her.
~Jennie

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Other 6 Answers to What would you do if you didn't think your friend was safe with someone?

flourlady111	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM well i cherish friends- so i would tell them for sure. Rated: +1Vote for this!
FrenchSpaniard	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Tell them what you think.You dont want something to happen and then regret not saying anything Rated: +1Vote for this!
Duana	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM I have not read your story but I want to tell you that you must tell them your concerns. They might get defensive or they might set you straight if it isn't true. But I went through this situation when I was 27 years old and was in a very extremely unsafe situation. I was just like little red riding hood sucking up to the wolf and I honestly had NO IDEA and would never have been able to tell while I was in that situation. The worst part? Other people saw the danger (or maybe they didn't)- but no one told me and it ruined my life for evermore. So please spare your friend and tell her your concerns- that is what a friend is for. Duana Rated: +1Vote for this!
chanceNaodhan	Posted Dec 8th, 2008 at 12:51AM Please tell her your concerns. I was in that situation and no one told me, no one made me sit down and really think about what was happening. Stay a positive influence in her life, let her know that you'll help her get him out of her life if she decides to do that. Try not to isolate her, if you do, she'll probably fall further into his trap, thats what he wants. The abuse I suffer began like that, it got so much worse the further the relationship progressed. Its not only her at risk, its her children. Rated: +1Vote for this!
void00	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM I haven't read your story, but the answer is to take your friend to one side and tell her your concerns. Rated: +1Vote for this!
mysticsovereign	Posted Dec 8th, 2008 at 6:42AM I read and commented on your story, J-LONs. I know you can't tell everything, but what's missing? How has her judgment been in the past? She has kids - how old are they and why did she have to "work to keep them" in the past? You need to find allies - the kids themselves, an aunt or grandmother. Give them your contact information, if you can't get your friend to give it to you. She's made her choice. She'll live with the consequences. You're doing all you can. Addressing this guy by yourself would be doing exactly what he wants you to do. Drive you away. Stay with your allies and the kids. If she comes around, maybe you can salvage this friendship. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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