What would you do if you knew your BF was always on live webcam sites and lies about it?

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My answer is..this depends on you. I swear..that is always my answer I think.

Webcams..can be fun. I myself have no issue with my husband being on one..or watching another girl on one. Nor does he for me. Sometimes..watching..or being watched..or just simply watching a girl/guy on a cam..can just be healthy and hot. ****..is obivously hot and physically stimulating to men..but the fact is simple..sometimes **** just gets tired and old. And the lack of interaction with the actual sex 'acts' being done..whether by typing or talking or being there..can be somewhat appeased by the webcam/chat thing.

All of this though..matters not if you have made it expressly clear that you are against such behaviour. For us..it is acceptable..because we both agree on it..and are honest about it. Which is my REAL issue with this..if he is doing something and lying about ( and you are JUST finding all this out for the FIRST time) he may either be embarrassed..or was maybe not sure how you would react so he avoided bringing it up. BUT if this has been discovered, discussed and you have decided it is NOT something you are okay with..and he CONTINUES to go on with this behaviour..and is LYING to cover it up..to me that is a WHOLE different ball game! Then he would be SELFISH..and SNEAKY. Selfish in that he KNOWS you are hurt or upset by what is he doing, yet he still does it..and is lying..to do what he feels good doing. See where this is going? If he is lying to avoid a fight or being caught on the CAMERA..do you really believe he would not to the same thing given the motivation and opportunity in REAL life? Lying to me is a deal breaker. If he lies about little things to avoid LITTLE fights...he WILL lie about the BIG things to avoid the BIG fights is how I think.

I hope I have helped some.

Posted 8 months ago

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dasmuggler	Posted Mar 2nd, 2009 at 2:22AM Yo but she caught me on the counter (It wasn't me) Saw me banging on the sofa (It wasn't me) I even had her in the shower (It wasn't me) I even had her in the Range Rover (It wasn't me) She saw the marks on my should (It wasn't me) And here's the words that I told her (It wasn't me) She heard the screams gettin' louder (It wasn't me) She stayed until it was over Rated: +13Vote for this!
JojoWazoo	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 7:58PM Kick em' to the curb. Find another one who doesn't lie Rated: +8Vote for this!
GoldenArrow	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 7:58PM The problem is the lying. You've both got some work to do on the relationship to work out what stuff is in it and needs to be shared, and what stuff can be kept private. If that discussion sounds like too much work to be worth it, then follow most of the other's advice & move on... Rated: +3Vote for this!
geenpunchbuggie	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 5:10PM i think anyone who sits around on a webcam is a loser. find someone who has a life and interests like baseball or something. Rated: +2Vote for this!
unicorn59	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 7:37PM YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO WASTE YOUR TIME ON A GUY WHO NOT ONLY LIES TO YOU (BIG RED FLAG), BUT WHO SPENDS ALL HIS TIME ON WEBCAMS.... HE IS IMMATURE....AND DYSFUNCTIONAL....GO FIND A GUY WHO HAS A FEW MORE THINGS THAN THAT FIGURED OUT. Rated: +2Vote for this!
snowbunny1002	Posted Mar 2nd, 2009 at 3:01AM Who needs the hassle of a dealing with a liar! Thats the main issue here...dump him! You deserve better. Rated: +2Vote for this!
marcus101	Posted Mar 2nd, 2009 at 3:01AM I'd say the big item here was the fact that he is lying with hurtful intent. He knows it will hurt you, hides this fact, and isn't being straight about it. Nor does he seem to want to ever be straight about it. So in every way, he's just getting it the way he wants and isn't considering your feelings. Snowbunny's advice to dump him is well-heeded, and it's mine as well... Rated: +2Vote for this!
Paramour	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 5:11PM I would not even get involved with the guy in the first place. Rated: +1Vote for this!
TheRealWoman	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 5:35PM I would simply tell him that I knew and go from there... Make him respect you or move on. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Issac95	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 6:01PM GUYS LIKE ****. I'm sorry ladies, I know its degrading, but it's a fact of life. Rated: +1Vote for this!
StudentofUnifying Life	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 6:03PM Dump him. Lying is the ultimate deal-breaker for me. Rated: +1Vote for this!
underconstruction	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 6:04PM How about breaking up with him and getting yourself a less creepy boyfriend? Rated: +1Vote for this!
Ryuuzaki	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 6:08PM I'd certainly confront him about it. I have no problem with my guy reading ****. He's not 'cheating on me' and he still pays me attention, so fair enough. However, live webcam is a lot worse. He's interacting sexually with others by proxy and that's just not healthy. Tell him you know he's doing about it. Tell him you don't appreciate it. Ask him to stop, and warn him that you'll leave him if he doesn't. Then the ball is in his court. If he doesn't listen to you then, walk out. If he'd rather interact with people online when he has someone right there for him, more fool him. Rated: +1Vote for this!
elixor	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 6:26PM I WOULD WONDER WHY YOUR PARTNER FEELS THE NEED TO LIE TO YOU? MY MOTHER YES A GIRL FRIEND NO. Rated: +1Vote for this!
basspla<x>y er	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 6:29PM There needs to be truth.......time to move on. Rated: +1Vote for this!
nadiaa	Posted Mar 2nd, 2009 at 1:12AM I just dumped my bf last night because i found out he had planned to meet his old 'friend' on webcam and they planned on getting off over it.. when i confronted him, he denied doing anything wrong too, that just assured me hes not worth being with. I just saw it this way- I have enough self respect to not allow myself to be in a relationship with a person who doesnt show me the respect i deserve. i say dump him, because its what i did, and even though ofcourse it hurts and its hard to let go of the plans for the future we had, i feel right for standingup for myself, it feels right to treat myself with dignity. ask yourself how highly you value monogamy, and most of all, are you willing to compromise these values?make your decision based on logic, and not on empotions, because emotions change every day, but your values remain the same. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Tayer09	Posted Mar 2nd, 2009 at 2:25AM After visiting my local Travel Agency and picking out a dozen or so travel brochures; I'd go to starbucks, order a Skinny Cinnamon Dolce Latte, find a comfortable place to sit down, while I review my choices of exotic vacation spots. After I've decided on the Canary Islands; I'd make the necessary travel arrangements. Of course I would buy a bathing thong for sunning and funning. Then using a webcam - I'd video tape my Dear Loser Letter to my boyfriend while sporting my new thong - --- just before skipping off to catch my flight to the Canary Islands....without him. Savvy ? Rated: +1Vote for this!
jesynta	Posted Mar 1st, 2009 at 8:01PM Lying really is a deal breaker don't you think? You must feel this or you would not be here asking for help. A good relationship must be founded on trust, without that you don't have much worth keeping. Lies destroy trust, simple as that. You deserve better. Find a man who will treat you with dignity, respect and loyalty. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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