What would you do?

I'd get proof...she could be trying to trick him, so that he will stay in her life.....(it's been known to happen).

If it turns out to be true, then he needs to man-up.....whether they are in different countries, or not, he has a responsibility to this baby, too.

Also....take a deep breath. A friend is ideally there to support another friend, to listen, care and support their decisions. He has to figure out what to do for himself. Don'y kill yoursefl thinking YOUR supposed to come up with the answer. plenty of times I've told friends that I hate to see them going through something, and I know they will work it out & be a okay cuz they're so smart or strong (or another adjective - pointing out their strengths helps them feel more confident) and i'll be here to listen. I come right out & say i don't know what the best thing is for them - maybe give a few suggestions based on my experience. That's all anyone can usually do for another person.

Hugs to ya all!

it's a good thing he lives in another country!!!

It depends on what she wants from him. Does she want him to help with finances? Did she just "think he should know"? Is he sure the baby is his? Okay I know that my answers was a bunch of questions but I'm not sure what the situation is.

Step up, and be a dad.
I have no patience with absentee fathers.
Tell him to do what he needs to do.

I don't know that there is anything you can really tell him...I would start by listening, and then ask him questions as topics come up. Like "is that how you see your role in all this?" or "what would be the ideal solution to that?" Friends aren't there to give us all the answers but rather there because they care about us.

First I would want a test.

If he is the father, He needs to step up even if he does not want to be with the mother.

Listen and ask him what does his heart tell him to do..then ask him what his mind tells him to do..usually the mind always does the logical thinking..I would tell him to what his mind tells him to do, cause that would be the smartest..she may really love him and be pregnant, but I think the best thing for you to do would be to just be a friend and listen..??