One question: Why so serious
Parents who take good care of me. My boyfriend had the really lovey dovey momma who babied him all the time, and mine were the complete opposite. They fcuked him up! He did not get yelled at enough an his needs were not met, lots of bad things.
i'd take the affectionate ones anyday. <br />
my parents weren't. sure they fed me etc. but i still was always tempted to run away or jump off a cliff, because growing up no one was there when i cried. they were too busy. they got pissed off when the dishes were not done when they got home. never mind i had a hell of a day myself, people picked on me all the time. oh well. i didnt do the dishes.. a major sin. i just might not make it into heaven for that...unbelievable
Aren't they the same thing?
I would think being affectionate is part of taking care of their needs.... so how are they not the same thing?
Apparently I don't since to me they are the same thing.
So you did mean the same thing? Then it was not disagreeing with you I did not understand your wording of the topic, to me they are the same thing but you worded it as if they were not, I assumed you meant there was a difference, so I asked aren't they the same thing, for to me they are, so maybe I should have asked "How they are different?" I honestly don't fricking understand what your on about, to me both those things are the same question and same meaning just worded differently, so I'm more confused as hell. If you don't want to believe that, fine... I have no need to argue with a peeved legoman who does not understand that not everyone's brain or language skills work the same way as theirs does.
Since I never had affection, I would choose that - but parents should try out both
hey are both needs you have and need to be met esp in childhood and the lack ofhugs/affection can really stunt your development in to an adult