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What would you tell your father you have never really met?
Posted 2 months ago
ChoirBoy
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I actually am in this situation right now. I have never met my biological fater. All I know about him is that he was a woman beater and nearly cost me my life when he beat my mother while she was pregnant with me.
But many years have passed and I have grown up to believe now that If I met my father today I would forgive him of all that he has done in the past and I would want to start fresh. I think everybody deserves a second chance. Peoples hearts change as they grow older. Priorities change. God gave us a chance when he allowed his son to be nailed to a tree 2000 years ago. Nothing has changed.
I would want to know as much about him as I could. I would also look him straight in the eyes and Say, "I forgive you."
One day I hope to finally meet with my biological father. Until that day comes along, I just patiently wait.
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Stuckinpodunk
Posted Aug 27th, 2008 at 11:38AM
I would want my meet with my father to be very positive and I would keep our discussion in the here and now -- I would want to know about his life and what he was doing in the present not why he left or why he wasn't there for me.

I would let him know about my life in the present and in the now... that I have a marriage that works and beautiful children and my own possibilities and that I delight in life.

And I really think I would let him know that I wasn't in the market for developing a relationship with him -- that I just wanted to know he "was".
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GabrielTam
Posted Aug 26th, 2008 at 12:23PM
I thought about it for years. He abandoned me when I would have needed him most. I thought about bashing his skull in, but hes not worth getting my hands bloodied. What I would say to him is : "When you die, I'll drink and dance at you're funeral. And then in full view of everyone there I'm going to **** on you're grave. That's the amount of respect I have for scum like you." Not the emotional sappy answer you were looking for I'd wager, but honestly I am not a very forgiving guy, at least not any more.
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lilycue
Posted Aug 26th, 2008 at 1:49PM
I met my father when I was 18 years old.He had been very abusive toward my mom,something he regretted for the rest of his life.I was still curious,who was he ,what did he look like,why had'nt he come to see me all those years.I jumped at the chance to finally meet him,our eyes locked,we looked exactly the same.I could'nt deny that this stranger was my father.I don't really remember what we talked about,mostly small talk,for our first and only visit in person.We wrote to each other for a while then the letters stopped,my mom told me years later that she stopped him from writing to me and he respected her wishes.I never really got to know my dad,something I'll always regret,he's dead now,too late.
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Rworthy
Posted Aug 26th, 2008 at 5:22PM
I'm not sure I understand the question. If I was meeting my father that I had never met for the first time, I'd let him talk. I'd want to know what lessons he has to offer me as far as life lessons go. I'd want to know my family history/background. What his brothers and sisters are like/ grandparents, etc.

If you weren't meeting him and you want to say something to the universe to get some kind of closure, I'd say "It's okay." Whatever you did to me or my family, it's okay because we got on with our lives. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, etc.
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Clair
Posted Aug 27th, 2008 at 2:02PM
I never met my real dad and he only lives 15 miles away. I wouldn't tell him anything. I have no feelings for him because he would just be a stranger to me. I don't hate him, I just don't know him. The only thing I may wounder about is what he looks like and thats it. I never could understand how people could have feelings for someone they don't even know.
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