What's the best way to deal with someone who always acts helpless? Like they're stupid and cant do anything themselves?
10 Answers to "What's the best way to deal with someone who always acts helpless? Like they're stupid and cant do anything themselves?"
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Are you sure that they truly aren't stupid or helpless?
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what they really want is most likely attention. help them find a group of people who like to do what they like becouse they are lonely and just want someone to be near them that they can talk to.
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I tell them I already have children. If you need someone to coddle you then go live in a nursing home.
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Act as though they dont exists..... or ask an help to them...
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My husband was like this....he was quite capable to think and do for himself, well when he wasnt drunk. With hindsight id now say make that person stand on their own two feet with things they are quite clearly capable of doing for themselves.
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it depends on what they're claiming they cant do for themselves. for example, a mature adult who doesnt know how to pour water into a glass. i'd be tempted to tell them how to figure it out and walk away
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I walk away and let them fend for themselves....and when they do I cheer them on, positive reinforcement at it's best. You'll find or at least I did, that they wont 'act' helpless with you anymore for they know it won't fly; they go and find someone else to be cunningly helpless with.
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Hmm...no this person usually just starts crying like a 5 yr old. It's so phony and fake, it's laughable. Some folks actually get through life manipulating people to do everything for them this way. They enjoy it, I think.
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Help them out for a few times then encourage them to stand on their own two feet.
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Giving them a helping hand doesn't hurt anyone.
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Posted by crazyanon Jun 19th, 2012 at 1:01PM
I would like to know the same thing. My mother is just 59 years old. She whines & is a total hypocondriac. She is in a pissy mood all day every day. She expects me to drop everything I'm doing & cater to her when she can do it herself. Her biggest problem is that she wants everyone else to take care of her, & do everything for her...this includes my uncles, cousins & even my sons. I've got to learn to tell her NO. I'm just sick of it. I know I should show respect to her but damn I have a full life with a husband & 3 sons & can't be at her beck & call day in & day out.
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Reply by LadyHawke68 Jun 19th, 2012 at 1:11PM
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Reply by crazyanon Jun 21st, 2012 at 10:52AM
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