When you feel as good as you look
That's sad that you want to 's q e e z e' more out of him than he (obviously) is willing to give. Perhaps you have to ask yourself if it's worth it if he needs prodding to make you feel that he pays you enough attention.
Jealousy has nothing to do with love.... Possession is not love. He will pay more attention to you if you stop acting jealous of him (which btw is disrespectful of him to try and make you jealous)When he starts respecting you then you know you've got a shot a real love from him.
Then ask him. It shouldn't 'blow the magic away' if he honestly cares, but if having a conversation like that with him puts him off then you're better off knowing and better off without him. Don't walk around on eggshells playing games and trying to guess how he feels. Ask him.
btw: your theory that 'jealousy can show you that someone still cares' is a poor guide to finding out how he feels - what if you making him feel jealous makes him dislike you for playing games? What if he's jealous because he likes the other guy? - that wouldn't be a sign you were looking for would it?
How about stop trying to make him jealous and talk **** out?
It also annoys the **** out of us and makes you look like a *****. Find an alternative FFS.
A "little" is no different from "a lot" to us. You'll just end up ******* him off. Jealous is jealous, especially since it usually involves another guy.
Leave him. Sends the message much clearer.
Simple: leave. That, or put your foot down and talk like grown ups.
I beg to differ on an individual front, as I've been the calmer one many times, and I'm the one with emotional issues. Don't generalise. It annoys me.
Blow his best friend in front of him?hahaha
The impression I get is that unless you see signs of yr b/f being jealous or possessive about you, that you dont feel cared about or valued. Men think differently from women in some respects, and this is one of them. You think that if he is jealous it means he loves you. Sadly you are very wrong about this so to engineer a situation where he becomes jealous is pointless, it wont make him love you. You know a man loves you when he cares and shows he cares, when he pays attention to you, enjoys your company, values your opinion, wants you both to have fun, share experiences. It would seem he does none of these things, at least not enough, or you wouldnt need to use jealousy to find out if he loves you. I would say you would be wise to review this relationship, it doesnt seem to giving you what you want, he still wants to behave as if he is single I think, and you seem unhappy about this. Time to move on perhaps?
Let me tell you a story. .. many years ago I was very Ken on a girl and mutual friends told me she gent the same. .. the friends decided we would all go on a picnic. ..3 cars of people. ... When I got picked up one of the guys told me he heard her dating to agf in the car hire she was going to ignore me and make me jealous and chase after her... At the beach she did this. ... kept disappearing for walks with other people so I ignored her. .. At the end of the day she was in tears because I didn't chase her. .. We never did see each other again. ... end of story
from everything you are saying in yiur replies, one fact seems to be clear. .. the relationship is not giving you what you want. ... If that is so it may be time to move on. ... If he is not the person you want then go out and find him. ... Being in love may be grand but if it's with the wrong person is not fun. ... despite what you may believe love does not conquer all and sometimes love alone is not enough. ..I do wish you the best but I don't think making him jealous to see if he loves you is the right approach .. Good luck :)
Not protective (controlling)
That's ok... But I do think your current guy is not the guy you really want or need
Why do you want to make him jealous? Don't you realize that isn't good for a relationship?
Sorry to be a pain but his reation may not show love but simple possession. ... His idea of how a relationship works appears to be different to yours
It doesn't make the guy love you anymore when jealousy is related to ownership, like someone scratching your car.. You attempting to do this to the man and make him jealious shows you are nothing more then an attention hound out on a hunt for attention.
If you really want to know if he loves you is see how he acts around his friends when your with him.. If he pays them more attention then you, you are yesterdays news.
Was his response a show of his love or possessiveness? I'm sorry but being jealous isn't the same as being romantic. He should place you on a pedestal and show you the love you deserve 24/7 without being pushed into it by some guy winking at you.