You need to reach him with "Enlightened self interest". Basically show him whats in it for him to study. In my sons case he always wanted a really fancy car. So I joined the dots for him from earning enough or having a job that provided the car, back through hard work and education to where he was now.. I admit I was lucky to have such an obvious goal for him to want. But that's what you need.
Well, in high school i always had the highest grades... But i never had the chance to live... <br />
Dont force him and let him live his life a bit.
some one ******** in ya hand bag lol
Give him a reason to care. Does he have a cell phone? Take it away fro him? Does he get an allowance? Take it away. Does he have video games? Take them away. <br />
You re his parent. Do not try to be his friend.
What does he with with his time????
What you are saying is that you allow him to do the things he wants. He has suffered no consequences for his actions. His sole job in life is to become educated. Your primary job, as it applies to him, is to make him do his job. It sounds like its time for you to become a parent and do your job.
Bad grades should mean that he has to spend more time on studies. If he is hunting, fishing, playing with friends he can't be studying. Since you brought up my child.... he was expected to get good grades. When he didn't , he got to study more. By 7th grade, he got the idea. He graduated in top 5 in a class of 175. He received a full scholarship to an out of State university. Today he is a successful professional. BTW.... he like many kids was diagnosed with ADD in 5th grade, before it became a common excuse. The difference is that we took our jobs as parents seriously.
Without education, your son will be living with and off you when he is an adult. You posted here. You are the one who told us what he is allowed to do. You are the one who has failed to tell us what professional help you are getting for him. You are the one who said that you doubt that he is abusing drugs, but failed to tell us the results of any drug tests that he has had.
BTW, how do you know that he is drug free?
That is what you get for thinking. You made the drug comment.. I'm just following up on it.
Drug abuse? Being depressed to the point of being a risk to one self?
Yeah but I meant that would be worse than bad grades...
Oh amd about school in our home it's do you're best there or don't get you're allowence... After all school is sort of like an equivalent to a job...
School doesn't always make people. many successful people did poorly at school. The more you pressure and stress, the more your son will rebel. Try another route
Those who perform poorly in school rarely become successful. Its time to step up and be his parent.
Oldenough, How very wrong you are. Do your research. School is a lie. I was a truant and drop out, and am now a university lecturer. Too much pressure of him could lead to failure. Both Einstein and Churchill did very poorly at school by the way, and these are people I can think of off the top of my head.
You're such a hypocrite. You "doesn't" even know how to conjugate. STFU and fix yourself before trying to fix him up.
You heard me. Spruce up your own basic grammar before you tell other people, including your offspring, that they're doing bad at their academics.
Fractalist, Grammar Nazis tend to be tremendously ignorant people. I see you make the point. Your syntax and grammar suck by the way.
I may have made one or two minor errors; I'm not the fuhrer of Grammar Nazis, but I abhor the blatant disregard to the proper use of first-grade level conjugations. You quite obviously do not know the definition of the word "ignorant;" critical, maybe, but Grammar Nazis are the complete antithesis of ignorance--we strictly abide by the laws of grammar.
Fractalist. BS! When wrong, just have the grace to admit it. Your sentences are poor, and so too your grammar. Glass houses. I call BS! As a university lecturer, I'd have your as*s. Rude little cow, and ignorant with it
Daily beatings with a spatula until he conforms
Well school is pretty shite.