accomplish your own goals
Try some really deep soul searching, kick out the ugly truth and do something about it and what is left is self-respect.
Accepting yourself that you are human and very capable of making mistakes as hard as you try not make them they will happen.<br />
Do the very best you can always.<br />
Help others simple stuff like hold the door open for strangers.<br />
Be courteous.<br />
Be assertive !!!
When all else fails "demand it"!
Step 1 - don't spend a lot of time on foolish things like the Internet.
If you already know then why are you asking the question?
You say that my answer has nothing to do with gaining self respect. That infers that you DO know what does and does not help to gain self respect.
Let's get a Band-Aid on that nerve I obviously hit sweetie.