When a guy says I hope I never do anything to hurt you...?

Do you think they mean what they say or does this send up a red flag?

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RUN for the hills. One should never speak using the term "hope" when describing a future "action" taken upon oneself. This leads me to believe... 1) He doesn't trust himself 2) He knows that he will probably commit some act in the future that will cause you to hurt and he is already laying down the ground work.....on his sensitivity for future smooth-talking apologies.

A person who truly cares about other people do not commit actions that hurt others. They tend to think before they act.

People prone to hurting others act as if they have no control over their actions, as if someone above them is pulling the strings and they are just the puppet going along with some show. I call them Puppet Men. Puppet Men say things like....I couldn't help it or it just happened or I hope I don't do that.. etc.

The above is written under normal conditions..

On the other hand..... if a person is ultra sensitive they can be hurt over the slightest of things...

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Other 12 Answers to When a guy says I hope I never do anything to hurt you...?

suenoloco	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 3:25AM RESPOND as follows: You better freakin Know not Hope. Get your thought process straight cuz I know I'd never hurt you intentionly. Whats that supposed to mean anyway? Rated: +1Vote for this!
woodinhouse	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 3:27AM red flags, he wants something, you can't be in a relationship without sometimes hurting eachother. Rated: +1Vote for this!
PaulDoe	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 3:31AM It creates the possibility that he is capable of hurting you. Nobody should be saying that. Rated: +1Vote for this!
bloodpromise	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 3:34AM I automatically categorize that statement the same as "I promise I'll never hurt you" which shouldn't even be said in the first place because as woodinhouse said, there is bound to be some hurt in a relationship, whether it's intentional or not. Rated: +1Vote for this!
doctorirwin	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 3:35AM I do not think this Q has an answer. I would think it depends on the person. Although I do know that I would not want to hurt anyone intentionally, but I have said things which were taken in away that have lead loved ones to get hurt. Also the reverse has happened to me. I think you must first look at how, when, where, in what context and what was going on when it was said. I hope for thew best for you. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Angeleyes777	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 4:00AM Any time a guy says that you should run for your life. It most definitely spells trouble. But i also think that everyone has to learn the hard way. Rated: +1Vote for this!
wilderheart	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 4:45AM Laugh Rated: +1Vote for this!
void00	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 6:39AM Red flag. The correct wording is "I would never intentionally do anything to hurt you." Rated: +1Vote for this!
Baileybis	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 8:04AM its a red flag. I think he is capable of hurting you. some people inadvertently reveal their true selves. Rated: +1Vote for this!
atasteforsufferin g	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 8:47AM red flag, i think in a relationship people are bound to be hurt. i have to agree with roberthedrock. the wording is what's strange "i would never intentionally do anything to hurt you" wouldn't sound so creepy or calculating Rated: +1Vote for this!
ShadowofDoubt	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 1:00PM Reg flag, sounds like he has done it before. Rated: +1Vote for this!
eventually	Posted Jun 29th, 2009 at 4:10PM I expect they mean it at the time, though I have always answered life has no gaurantees. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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