Depends on their attitude to homosexuality, which I assume you know, or can intuit.<br />
I would do it first with the parent with whom I have the best rapport.<br />
I would choose neutral ground, like a cafe, or comfortable public space.<br />
I'd wait for a suitable opening in the conversation, and say<br />
"I've got something important I want to share with you, but I feel nervous about your reaction."<br />
When they ask, you tell them you're gay... and give them plenty of time, listening.<br />
Accept their response, no matter what it is.<br />
Then tell them how you feel about their response.<br />
Ask them if they have any questions about the type of gay lifestyle you live.<br />
If you indulge in any risky practices, I would avoid telling them those details.<br />
If you have a primary partner, whom you'd like to introduce, <br />
you could ask if they'd like to meet them.<br />
Then you can ask this parent, <br />
what they think would be the best way to tell the other parent.<br />
If they get all conservative, be patient, and with dignity <br />
assert your right to live your life as you see fit,<br />
and remind them that gender preference is innate and not optional,<br />
and that you have as much right to love and fulfillment as any person.<br />
If they disagree on god grounds, <br />
remind them that their god gave everyone free will, <br />
and therefore that's your responsibility, not theirs.
you do it head on like a champ
Like a boss ;)
my friend came out unintentionally when her mom walked in & caught her making out with a chic. <br />
if you think they already know, they probably do, & are in denial. even when you tell them point blank, they may still 'pretend' you are straight. <br />
i'm sorry for your situation. it shouldn't be so hard to tell parents things so important. good luck.
If they live near by drive there. If a few states over and want to get there faster take a flight.
If they are not conservative tell them you like poetry, flowers, and long walks on the beach holding the hand of someone of the same gender. If they are conservative, I'd tell them slowly making sure that let them know that you're their child and they should love you no matter what. As for when, I would choose a weekend dinner at their home and not around major holidays.
Good luck to you. Hopefully things will go a little easier since you think they might already suspect it.