When does a parent have to stop sacrificing for their children?
My 31 year old daughter has gotten herself in yet another bad situation and has put the burden of correcting it on me. She blindly moved into a house that this old man got for "them" but he wasn't supposed to be there. HE was to leave on a job and stay gone traveling for a year at least. My daughter didn't tell me she was moving until AFTER she'd done the deed because I would have warned her that it was a mistake to be totally dependent on someone else to pay the bills like that and now what I would have told her has become a reality because the whole situation has gone downhill and she has taxed ME to fix things. AGAIN!!! She has three kids and was taking them to a homeless shelter after just a week of "living with" the old man and now she wants him gone but she has no job and no income and stressed me out and wants me to move in and be responsible for taking care of things. I just moved into this place two months ago I don't want to move again and I don't want the responsibility
6 Answers to "When does a parent have to stop sacrificing for their children?"
Posted by Lulwa Aug 2nd, 2009 at 1:42AM
For sons : when they are adults and ( I dont't know the translation).
For doughters: untill they get married.
[ Reply ] | Like (1)
Posted by whowasthatmaskedman Aug 1st, 2009 at 11:06PM
You never stop sacrificing for your kids (and indeed their kids) . But if you do it right it just doesn't feel like a sacrifice.
[ Reply ] | Like (1)
Posted by Undertone Aug 1st, 2009 at 10:53PM
When a parent joins "the ghosts"
Or disappears, without leaving a forwarding address, leave a goodbye note on the fridge, they'll find it.
[ Reply ] | Like (1)
Posted by GIGIMAMA Aug 1st, 2009 at 10:46PM
MY DEAR LADY,
I WRITE IN CAPS B/C I AM LEGALLY BLIND. I HAVE A 25 YO DAUGHTER WITH 3 GIRLD AND A BOY DUE JAN 1 10, I HAVE LIVED A COMPLETELY DREADFUL LIFE. I LOVE MY GRANDCHILDREN AND I LOVE MY DAUGHTER, BUT, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!! I DESERVE TO LIVE A LIFE THAT IS WHOLESOME AND HAPPY, AND DEAR, SO DO YOU, I WILL NOT TELL YOU WHAT TO DO BUT, PRAY ABOUT IT, REMEMBER SHE IS AN ADULT, AND HOU SHOULD BE ENJOYING YOUR LIFE, HAPPY, FREE, AND WITH GODS LOVE.
[ Reply ] | Like (1)
Posted by partychar Aug 1st, 2009 at 10:36PM
never. Because their child is a part of them, they will always want the best for the child because they love him/her more than they love themselves. At least, most parents do - it's nature
[ Reply ] | Like (1)
Posted by enna30 Aug 1st, 2009 at 10:22PM
This is a terribly tougfh situation. I can advise the "tough love" approach - don't rescue her. Let her discover fully for herself how the consequences of her actions affect her life and that of her children.
Having said that, I do understand how difficult that is to do, especially where there are children involved.
If possible, insist she go to the shelter and DO NOT take her in or move in yourself - but do stand by her and the children while she makes arrangements for a better alternative. Maybe you can help out (only a little) with money - but more importantly with being a support person while she gets through this.
Whilst ever you rescue her she will never really change. But as a parent I know this "tough love" approach is very very hard - I know because I've done it.
[ Reply ] | Like (1)
Add an Answer to "When does a parent have to stop sacrificing for their children?"