Some women feel threatened by a unattached woman and some men feel chased by them. I have been blessed have not run into this myself as of yet.
when she doesn't wear black for 7 long years
I've been a widow for years, and people treat me as less of a threat than a divorcee, if you mean what I think. They assume divorcees are looking for someone new.
What is unspoken exactly?
I'm not sure I understand the question. Why would a widow be a threat and to whom?
Ah. Are those accusing you of stealing men women? They see you as a threat because you are single and they assume you as being lonely and on the prowl and that is why they mistake your actions of friendship as something more.
Also, I am sorry for your loss and hope that this situation changes for you.
It is very hurtful and sometimes people don't realize how cruel they can be.
try not to let it get you down, you have had enough sorrow already. Maybe try a support group. Sometimes it helps to be around others experiencing the same situations.
Facebook Wars. Does anyone ever understand them? Do they ever mean anything? If some pinhead feels threatened by another person bing on facebook...it is time to push back from the keyboard.