Not judgmental, it's taking the facts you DO know and making logical assumptions based on them. <br />
I know you were home late.<br />
I know you have lipstick on your collar.<br />
I surmise you are having an affair.
No. Apples and Oranges. When you 'surmise,' you are 'summarizing' what you know to render an opinion.
You are not being judgemental you are using your brain and making an assumption. For example, I know you had an affair last year, you come home late, are evading my questions about where you were and acting suspiciously- I assume you are having another affair. <br />
because - the best predictor of future behaviours is past behaviours. <br />
Don't let someone try to make you feel bad about your doubts/ questions by calling you judgmental.
Not at all, it if you don't confuse what if with what is. Actually I have a pretty good intuitive mechanism inside of me.
It's called making assumptions. You can only make assumptions when you don't have all the facts. That is all you can do. You are judgmental when you start placing blame and becoming firm in your stance without proof.
Everyone makes all decisions on the basis of incomplete facts. Below a certain threshold of information, we can say you surmise. It's not necessarily judgmental.