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When people ask very real heart-breaking serious questions here, does it feel so heart-breaking that you can't help them

I do the very best that I can do because I have experienced SO many tumultuous situations in my life. But there are so many young women and men who really need help outside of a forum-like experience..

I really try to point them to their guidance counselor, family health counselor, etc. (with addictions) but, honestly, does it ever feel hopeless in helping these people? And yes, I have been one at many times and understand.

I love and want nothing but for people to enjoy their lives. And it hurts me to see so many people struggling with mental or physical illness....

I am moving into a new place because of my two-fold disability. Not ashamed. I really wish more people would understand the term "disabled". I really don't understand why there is such a stigma on the term "disabled" You all know that I am extremely intellegent...

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  1. KingofSwords - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by KingofSwords Apr 8th, 2012 at 6:53PM

    We are in a hurting world. I am thankful that people share their struggles. It is only through sharing that they can find relief from the grief of their situation. And only through the sharing that we can be humbled to appreciate our life and be motivated to pray for them, offer suggestions or physically do something to help them.

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  2. PrincessMaine - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by PrincessMaine Apr 8th, 2012 at 8:03PM

    Very sweet!

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  3. IndustrialHEMP - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by IndustrialHEMP Apr 8th, 2012 at 6:52PM

    I answer when I can and when I cant I try to make them smile at least

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  4. PrincessMaine - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by PrincessMaine Apr 8th, 2012 at 6:56PM

    You are awesome..you have no idea how much that means to someone that is struggling so much!!

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  5. laniferous - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by laniferous Apr 8th, 2012 at 6:50PM

    I usually cant even read them all the way through. I feel paralyzed by their suffering

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  6. PrincessMaine - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by PrincessMaine Apr 8th, 2012 at 6:54PM

    Bless you Sweetheart!!!

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  7. CarlaW - 61-65 years old - female

    Posted by CarlaW Jan 17th, 2013 at 10:06AM

    Can we issue a cyber slap to those who ridicule these people who are suffering?
    If I cannot relate I wont go and respond. I have never cut nor known one personally. I have never personally met someone who is addicted to a drug, or of abusive situations.
    Yet when I am suffering I know kind words can help lift me up.

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  8. 2Leadindeed - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by 2Leadindeed Apr 8th, 2012 at 7:30PM

    It is heart breaking to hear the kind of situations some people are in and the pain they have to deal with. I can’t say I will ever get to a point of not being affected by the stories told on here or anywhere else for that matter because they almost always leave me feeling a degree of powerlessness. And I would say that you and I know a little about the concept of being powerless, and I know there is a level of acceptance that needs to take place if I am going to find any peace with what goes on in this world. I once told a fellow recovering person that I felt like hell because no matter what I said, did, or how much time I put in, no one I was trying to help was staying sober. He told me he disagreed. And when I asked of whom he was referring to, he said I was the one who stayed sober so not all was lost. I have often wished I could see what difference I have made in people’s lives over the years, but it is probably a good thing that I don’t, because I think you know as well as me, help comes in really strange ways sometimes. I guess if I could say anything that would help; it would be for you to remember we are not alone. There is and has been something working in our world far beyond anything I think we are capable of comprehending. I have no desire to drink today and for twenty years of my life not a day went by I could make that claim. Something happened and it was beyond dispute. So God speed my girl, you are probably doing more good than you will ever know.

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  9. PrincessMaine - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by PrincessMaine Apr 8th, 2012 at 8:09PM

    AWESOME! And I remember when I was struggling that there where so many people with time under their belts. And I made them remember that they never wanted them relive that again!!!

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  10. 2Leadindeed - 56-60 years old - male

    Reply by 2Leadindeed Apr 8th, 2012 at 8:18PM

    Yup, the only reason I can say I’m alive today are my teachers who are still out there fighting the battle I know I will lose if I pick up the fight again. So thank you and it’s kind of sad to say, but some of the reason I still go to meetings is to hear from those who stopped going to meetings so I won’t forget. Alcohol is just like that. Wants me to minimize, and minimize the possible cost until, “what’s the big deal” Right?

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  11. glassgirl09 - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by glassgirl09 Apr 8th, 2012 at 7:02PM

    Yeah, it really is. But sometimes you do end up helping people, which is great. You just can't help everyone.

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  12. PrincessMaine - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by PrincessMaine Apr 8th, 2012 at 7:05PM

    I truly believe that I helped many people with my stories concerning addictions. I am thinking about becoming a writer or a counselor...

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  13. glassgirl09 - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by glassgirl09 Apr 8th, 2012 at 9:39PM

    Go for it!

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  14. Fishin4Life - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by Fishin4Life Apr 8th, 2012 at 7:00PM

    yes it does

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  15. PrincessMaine - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by PrincessMaine Apr 8th, 2012 at 7:06PM

    Agreed!

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  16. kayje - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by kayje Apr 8th, 2012 at 6:55PM

    When the question relates to me, and I know I have asked the very same question in my mind, hoping someone would answer it for me, then I do my best to answer helpfully. My heart does hurt with those who are hurting in a way that I can understand and empathize, and I want to help by answering from my own experience. I hurt because I can't help more than a cyber-hug... I hurt because I know how it hurts to not have anyone by your side as you're crying and typing out that question or story... If you had someone by your side, you wouldn't even need to ask that question, or write that story...

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  17. PrincessMaine - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by PrincessMaine Apr 8th, 2012 at 7:08PM

    Beautiful!...

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  18. Bear1956 - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by Bear1956 Apr 8th, 2012 at 6:51PM

    I feel very helpless when I can't help some one with their problem.

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  19. PrincessMaine - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by PrincessMaine Apr 8th, 2012 at 6:57PM

    But your kind words mean SO MUCH to people going though so much. I have been on EP for many years. I can't think of how I would have made without you all for support!!!

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  20. Bear1956 - 56-60 years old - male

    Reply by Bear1956 Apr 8th, 2012 at 7:00PM

    That's very sweet of you to say that. Thank you very much.

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  21. Hollywoodrags - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by Hollywoodrags May 2nd, 2012 at 5:43PM

    I see the same thing as you I'm in the same boat as far as my health goes i'm going down pretty fast . I have lost friends because of this and lack of their honesty too . God has a plan I'm kinda waiting to see what it is and keep believing that there is a better way soon . I hope and pray for you too and that angels are in your shoulders keeping you in a forward movement it's best . Love comes within never forget that so seeing this in others will help you the shallow will fall to the way side . keep me posted ok ? Hollywoodrags

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  22. AlexaW - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by AlexaW Apr 9th, 2012 at 10:02AM

    I read them and if it relates to what I know I answer. However there are many times they are so mixed up i don't know where to start so I don't.

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