If your Boyfriend is locked up , #1 You do not have to much to be worried about him cheating on you , #2 When you talk to him he is probably surrounded by other guys using the phones around him, cut him some slack here he has to keep up his manhood in that place, after talking to him instead of asking him if he still loves you Tell him that you miss him so much and You still love him , let him respond back to you, he may say "me to" or he may even say "I love you to" but remember other people are listening to every thing he is saying to you . It is hard to be a man when you are locked up. You can not express your real feelings in front of the others for fear of reprisals. If he told you he loves you believe him , and trust him , you will feel a lot better .
I understand what you are saying exactly , I have a good friend in MVCF Annandale NJ . I take his girlfriend up to visit him every other weekend . She feels the same way that you do, he has another year and a half to go . When they are in there they have to put on a false image , its a survival image , at first we did not understand but after doing this for over a year now , we understand . If they let their guard down and show their true feelings to other inmates they see them as weak . He loves her very much and the same with her . And I am sure your man loves you as much as you do love him . He is that same person but he is in a different environment right now . I am sure that when he is alone on the phone or on your visits he is excited to see you . If you look deep into his eyes , you will know that he loves you . Under different circumstances , I would say that he should be telling you every day that he loves you , especially if he knows that you are the insecure type of person , he should be helping you build your self esteem and confidence . Thats what a good boyfriend would do . But in there it is very hard to do . Give it time and when he gets out . Hopefully he will be the boyfriend of your dreams.
Check out his actions. Actions always speak louder than words...
No, it's not wrong to hear it, everyone needs to feel loved and reassured about it (although this happens with more than just words). So maybe a better question to ask yourself is... why do you feel like you need to ask him in the first place? What's going on that makes you feel like you're not feeling loved in other ways?
Hon, is this the same guy that's in jail? I think between these two things, you should maybe feel concerned... just my opinion
perfectly said comrad..pefectly said..
It's not wrong to want to hear it. If he truly does love you, he wouldn't mind saying it when you need to hear it.
The word becomes overused and loses its meaning.
There's more than one way to show it. And you shouldn't ask him, it should just come naturally if he appreciates you.
If you ask too much, it is really annoying.
AH I was picturing him on the couch in the loungeroom. My bad. I can understand where you are coming from then, but try not too ask too much.
like what i said..him being there does not justify anything..and rally, when a guy is overstressed,and i'm sure your guy is for being locked up,it's really an add up to ask him that always.. if you really love him,try to understand his situation.. it ain't heaven there..it's hell..