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When you first meet someone, do you concentrate more on their appearance or on the way they act?

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well, teir appeaance is the first thing you notice, so that usualy gives you some idea aboutthe person, but the way they act is what I pay most attention to.
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 2:32AM
I watch their body language to see what they are thinking and how they feel.
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 2:32AM
I watch for the way they act as well as their smile.
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 2:32AM
I notice their apperance straight away, but after the first like 2 minutes i focus on the way they act.
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 2:33AM
I think everyone may look at their appearance because that is the first thing you 'see'. But for me it is based on personality. I want to know what kind of person they are, the way the act and deal with certain situations. That always says alot about the person.
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 2:33AM
First I notice the way they look - the way they're dressed, put together, etc.

Then I notice the way they speak, how they act, whether or not every other word is the F word, etc. I notice their accent, their hair, teeth, facial expressions...

I also notice how a person smells, how their voice sounds (harsh, forceful, soft, gentle, teasing, etc.), and how much eye contact they give me.
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 2:33AM
Their appearance is the first thing anyone see's but for me that's only a few seconds. I pay attention to their body language as i'm looking into their eyes and trying to read them. I look for tale tale signs of lying and truthfulness as they talk and listen carefully to their words.
So I would go with the way they act.
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 2:34AM
I notice appearances, sheer natural beauty, and appreciate it -- in both men and women, romantic or otherwise. But their actions seal the deal and help me decide if I want to try to engage them in further conversation.
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 2:34AM
Absolutely on the way they act.
Especially, if they are always fixing their make up.
:>)
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Posted Jun 20th, 2009 at 4:21AM
Both. Their appearance matters. I like to find poeple attractive, (and it often says a lot about them and how they see themselves). But that doesn't mean "perfect". In fact, flawlessly perfect is boring to me. I like a person to have character. I like quirks and flaws and most of all, I like it when I look at a person and see a story that makes me want to get to know them better. And if their personality is attractive, then a mundane or ugly person can become really attractive as I get hooked on them. but that wasn't exactly your question.

When I first spot someone, something about them has to catch my attention, or else they don't get truly "noticed" and I just forget about them. Sometimes it's physical: they're attractive, or interesting to watch. But without a good personality, that won't hold my attention for long. If they're a jerk or arrogant then I'll get quickly turned off.

And if it's their personality (something they said, or did) that caught my attention, then it will often make me re-examine them physically. I can be shallow sometimes. But WHO a person is, is what really hooks me.
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 8:08PM
First time I meet someone im paying more attention to their appearance.
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 8:14PM
No, I go by personality!

Looks and appearance do not mean anything!
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 8:35PM
first you notice appearacnces because you dont know who they are... but then as you talk you realize by their personality what kind of person they are so its really kinda both/.
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 8:50PM
I'm listening to what they say. You learn more about someone if you just shut up and listen. Looks are deceiving, actions can be inaccurate, but intelligence doesn't lie...you can't fake it. I love people with beautiful brains.
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 9:03PM
First meet someone... I going to ask the 'dumb question' that I assume you mean in a romantic sense of 'first meet'. If so.. I'm a man... I concentrate on appearance first, but certainly wouldn't be interested unless I liked the way they acted.
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 9:06PM
If you mean romantically, don't we all tend to do that?
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 10:05PM
I like not to take too much importance in their appearances, and i like to see their look deep from his eyes, and his smile... and also the way he talks tells me a lot about a person :D
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 10:06PM
Both: I like beautiful countenance and brilliant intellect. However, I love and respect all people unconditionally.
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 10:11PM
appearance
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Posted Jun 19th, 2009 at 10:21PM
Of course, the first contact is visual, and what I look for first is her eyes....are they warm?..open?...or do they have that squinty, get outta my way look. Then i look at her lips to see if she is basically a happy person. Does the look in her eyes match the smile?...Immediately after that she will speak and give you all there is to know about making your decision.
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