When you hate yourself, can love come again?

When you loose the love of your life, can you find love again?
My eighteen year old daughter was killed 4 years ago in a car crash and I can't feel love anymore. Will love ever come back into my life or will I be angry for the rest of my days?

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yeah....the numbness will subside - everytime i hear some one say "time heals all wounds" or "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" I wanna SCREAM .......only the un-empathetic could offer something so inane - it will hurt less OFTEN as time goes by - but when it hurts it hurts just as much......your daughter would want you to be happy - so work on letting the anger go ...... anger is a state of mind, not an emotion - so it's easier to work on - it's an avenue to vent the pain......find something to focus that energy into - some kind of work or volunteer work your daughter would have liked in her honor -
ie - if she liked plants, plant flowers and trees, if animals volunteer at a shelter, etc........or/and get back to doing the things you like to do........get lots of hugs from friends/family, and give some to others in need ....... you have my sincere sympathies , and lots of hugs to you from me......

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Angeleyes777	Posted Aug 18th, 2009 at 3:54PM You poor poor thing, i am so sorry for your loss Your child was your heart and you are still numb and maybe always will be. If you believe in a higher power, maybe you could ask for strength and guidance and help in healing your heart. I am going to send you some healing my love. I hope that someday the pain will ease slightly. Rated: +2Vote for this!
SeriouslySappy	Posted Aug 18th, 2009 at 3:54PM I am so sorry for you loss. It's the worst any parent could suffer. Grief support groups can help but you need to reach out to them. The pain will never go away completely, you'll always miss her. If you can't do it for yourself, think about what she would want for you. I'm betting she'd want you to be happy in life. Rated: +2Vote for this!
Intruderlvr	Posted Aug 18th, 2009 at 3:54PM Good answer Lacsar....about sums it up Rated: +2Vote for this!
FreeFallWall	Posted Aug 18th, 2009 at 3:54PM {hugs} We can't imagine what you're going through of course. Just try to breathe. Bad time's here. Good time'll come too. Since that's what's always been happening, but of course you won't forget her and can still keep her alive in some ways. Rated: +2Vote for this!
allofus	Posted Aug 18th, 2009 at 3:54PM Your still feeling love, if not you would not miss your daughter so much. It is just that your love is caught up in all the pain and hurt you feel. You have friends and family around you, I hope that still care about you. Try acting on the love your daughter left you to give to them, you and your daughter obviously loved each other very much, maybe it is time to start sharing the love you had with your daughter with others so they can experiance what she did. I do not know, but I think anyone would want that for someone they left behind. Rated: +2Vote for this!
thehippy	Posted Aug 18th, 2009 at 3:53PM love can come back into your life but you have to allow it in. You cant go on like this you have to let her go. She wouldnt want you to mourn her forever i am sure. Look at the positive things she gave you and remember you are crying for a lost life dont lose yours too!. The thing that was most precious to you was your daughter alive...you too have a life that is precious and you have to allow yourself to live it with happiness and love. She will always be in your heart and you will grow to accept it it does take a very long time to get over something so tragic. But it will happen one day you will be able to laugh and love again. Rated: +2Vote for this!

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