When you have kids how do you know when divorce is better than staying together and fighting all the time?
4 Answers to "When you have kids how do you know when divorce is better than staying together and fighting all the time?"
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Getting divorced was the best thing my parents ever did when I was a child. I hated the fights and the bad atmosphere. Even if you don't argue in front of them, children aren't stupid or blind
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u don't... remove everything from the equation except urself... what would you do...trying to make evryone happy doesn't work and never will. but if ur both willing to fight for it..that's diff... so do u love ur spouse?
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Well that depends on you and your husband. Do you wanna be together or not?
If not, then go ahead and divorce. Your kids may be a lot happier if they are in a happier environment. I am a single mother and my kids are very happy and they see their dad every second weekend.Like (1)
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Posted by userina Sep 19th, 2009 at 12:38AM
Bcgirl has a very good point but it is not always that simple and sometimes you don't really know, so you have to go with it seems right at the time even if it turns out to be wrong at the end.
I did not go but I stayed. I waited for the sake of the family until the last one was old enough to leave the house and go to college.Yes the kids where subjected to a lot of negativity throughout the years, no physical violence but mental abuse directed mainly to me. I was also mostly depressed and I hate to say it, that is a form of unintended abuse toward the children.
Is not fun to have a depressed mother around the house no matter what the reasons are.After I demanded the divorce a monster unleashed and to this day my ex is still trying to damage me in any way he can. I can just imagine now what he could have done, had I left when the children were small. He would have done everything in his power to separate me from them.He knew that they were and are my life.
When I think of that, I console myself and think that maybe waiting was the right thing to do. I sacrificed years of my life but maybe I saved the children from a horrible situation, maybe worst than the one that we are living now
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