No, you can't change anyone but yourself, though it is possible to instill the desire in someone to change for the better or inspire them to do so, either for you or for themselves, but in the end, it is they who are choosing to change.
People always change.
I expect them to change because all people change, given time. Change as a person? Maybe not. But in their beliefs and opinions? Certainly. I would never ask someone to change, or try to compel them to, because it's doomed to failure and, quite frankly, if I wanted them to change, then why the heck would I be marrying them? But at the same time, I would account for those changes that are inevitable, and hopefully love them all the same. Because again, you can't expect someone to stay with you forever if you don't want to stay with them.
I feel the same way violetdeath. I wonder why people are for changing their spouse's outlook, behavior, etc. I don't know if it's the thrill of knowing that you have the ability to change someone as soon as you're married to the person.
I don't think I'd go into a marriage expecting any major behavior changes because those would have been made while dating if they were to be made.
Really..I have no idea if they are everlasting because I've not been in an everlasting relationship.
When you get married you have to know that they will change but you cannot change them. Those changes will be some good and some bad. That's why COMMITMENT is important.
I wouldn't marry anyone if I needed them to change first... thats a big gamble
I think they COULD change. Its possible. Anything is possible.
That is a big gamble on her part, thinking her fiance will change after they are married. Not smart on her part assuming such a thing. As everyone else has said, it is his ultimate decision to do so and could be helped by her inspiration/motivation. She is burying her head in the sand pretending there is nothing wrong and will have to deal with problems sooner or later. To me it is a big red flag if any change is thought to be needed. Proceed with caution! lolol
couldn't have said it any better :)
Does the fact that you're married make any difference? Would you change for the person if you weren't married?