lots of groups here on EP with good info on this. look for groups with BDSM or Submission in the title for starters. I wish you both all the best: it can be a very wonderful and quite fulfilling lifestyle for the right people.
I would not know. I tried it a long time ago and she laughed. She says women should NEVER obey men and women are ALWAYS right. I have no say in this and she rules me. I am there to please her superior woman-hood even though she weighs less than me and is skinny. She is hot and knows it. Her wish is my command. I guess you would have to find the right woman, and cannot change a dominant woman into submissive.