I have a mild phobia of roaches. Nothing bad has ever happened to me regarding roaches, but they gross me out to the extreme. Maybe an extreme aversion to something can lead to phobias as well. I can pick up and play with spiders, but I totally am nonfunctional around roaches. Just the mention of them sets my follicles a tingle.

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Very interesting, usually a person with your type of phobia would be inclined to fear the whole of the insects species, yet you can hold and play with spiders but not with roaches. They say Roaches have survived the longest amount of time on the earth.

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I think from bad experience at a early age. My phobia is talking to people.

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Re: Telephone Phobia<br />
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I thought I would write to describe my experience of this very limiting condition.<br />
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This became apparent when I was 18. I often used to make the excuse that the caller had just rung off, by the time I got to the phone. I usually let it ring, hoping that someone else would answer it. Other excuses were that it was a wrong number, or it was a bad line – etc, etc.<br />
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This fear persisted into my National Service (consc<x>ription), where I found myself as the chief clerk in the medical branch of a headquarters, assisted by only one lady part-time. To begin with, answering or making phone calls were worse than any dental appointment I had been to. I could feel the sweat beginning to break and I became very jittery just at the thought of handling the phone. First thing in the morning, I made one call after another, trying hard not to allow time for this fear to take me over.<br />
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Then I picked on an idea. I began to know as much about my job as I could. I usually put in extra time, looking through the piles of files. I made up a library of booklets in the office and had them filed in strict title order. I would be as co operative to people on the phone as I could, and if I didn’t know the answer to a query, I would assure the caller that I would phone him/her back as soon as possible, hopefully with the answer. I quickly had the phone under control and my managing officer said that I was the best clerk he ever had.<br />
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When I left the army, I had a job where I did not use the phone at all. After that, I found different work elsewhere, and unfortunately, I had to use the phone again. My phone phobia was back in full strength. Little by little I tried to get to grips with everything that I should know. That wasn’t easy in civilian life, and as a complication, I also had to answer queries for people doing other jobs.<br />
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This phobia persisted to a greater or lesser degree, depending how knowledgeable I was about my then current job. <br />
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I talked to one of the researchers on the TV Kilroy programme (now cancelled), and this provided an important stepping stone in my coming to an understanding. Through this discussion I realised that I never had the phobia when I was talking on the personal or social scene. It always related to a work situation.<br />
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When I was working as an employee, using the phone a fair amount one afternoon, I was beginning to enjoy communicating this way. I had time to reflect. I thought this is ridiculous – I have this phobia, yet I am enjoying talking on the phone! Then the penny dropped. I wasn’t afraid of the phone as such, but I was afraid of confrontation with people on the phone.<br />
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I never experienced the phobia talking to someone socially. And I never had it when talking as a self-employed person; if I was in conflict in this situation, I did have the choice of terminating the call and possibly losing a customer – I only had to answer to myself. (For four years I managed my own personal telephone answering service and this phobia never arose.) If I was an employee however, I felt I had to stay with the confrontation until the caller chose to terminate the call.<br />
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This aspect of confrontation and not feeling able to get out of it, has been, and still is a very relevant factor for me. When I was in my early teens especially, there were many family upsets from which I could not readily escape. After 45 years (!), I came to understand the reason for my fears. Though they are still with me, I no longer think of my phobia as irrational at all. Probably all fears are rational – if only we know the reasons!<br />
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Fears help us to keep alive – to live within certain parameters. It would be wrong of me to pretend or try to erase the memories of past family conflicts. While I have a memory, these experiences will remain part of me. I now see the future as a challenge – of turning possible conflicts into amenable associations, if not actual friendships. If I fail in this, I will at least understand my phobia. I will no longer view it as some alien that has appeared from nowhere.<br />
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I should have discussed my problem, possibly with a professional, a long time ago. But then one thinks such a phobia is not only very peculiar, but is just one of a list of many possible inadequacies.<br />
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I have written at length in the hope that my experiences might enrich your approach into such conditions.

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