For me, being MIS quoted tops them both.
The lie hurts more, I appreciate the honesty.
A white lie. It means they don't trust me enough to be brutally honest with.
honesty will hurt more but better in long run
the white lie...
In my experience of having done both, brutal honesty hurt people more. Not everyone likes to hear the truth, no matter how much they want you to "be real" with them. :/ Makes it kind of difficult for me, since telling the truth would be a lot easier than making up some lie that might lead to another lie and just get messy...
Equal depending on the circumstances.