I'm sure people with kids will disagree to that statement.

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Yep.

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i have 3 grown children,and 6 grandchildren,i love kids,butyou have to take care of the mother,in order to,be the best,you can be for the child=======

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I don't disagree. I don't have children of my own, but if it came between a parent going something important or his/her kid going without the same thing, I reckon 10 times out of time the parent would go without. Or at least, that's what I'd imagine I'd do.

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please read all the posts,got great answers from,moms and dads and kids too-------ty==========

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of course you would---all good parents are sacrificial lambs------im still doing for them after 44 years--------no matter how old they are ---they are always ,my babies--------but i repeat,i have to prioratize their mother in order to,to be the rock,or safehaven they need,when they fall----------and we all falll-------

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i like that-----keep it clean and simple-----shoot from the hip-------i think your the only one that truly gets it---------tyvm=======

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My mum.<br />
why it would be wrong? I honestly could bear something happening to me but I could not bear it happening to my mum! I t is not that weird that you can love someone so much!

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oh,you are so right----i could not bear anything bad happening to any of my children,but remember,you are talking about unconditional love------but you have to look after yourself first,,because GOD forbid ,if anything did happen to your mom,you would have to be,strong enough to do it..........by taking care of you,your taking care of everybody you love.........

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My daughter, but I also take care of myself so that I am better able to take care of her. I am assuming you don't have children.

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you would assume wrong,i am the mother of 3 and grandmother of six-----you are assuming you will always be well,and be able to care for yourself,and your children-----but things,like health,can spiral out of control,through no fault of our own,genetics play a huge role-------i became chronically ill,years ago,,,,,luckily i had raised my 3 to adulthood........nobody ,wants to get sick,or asks,to be ill or chooses,this tough road-----it just happens.you can only do the best that you can with what you have........when we are young we take life for granted-----nobody prepares for,life altering illnessess..........it just happens--------because im a mom and nana,thats how i survive it---------for them=========

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My number one prioriity isn't me because I'm old enough to look after myself, she isn't.

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i get that--im a mother and grandmother,if your not happy and healthy,you cant look after anyone.

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I'm happy enough and I've not wrecked my health yet :-) I do kinda take care of myself but I'm not my number one priority!

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i didnt wreck my health either,it was taken from me.we do not choose,to become ill.from this experience,ive learned and been taught,how to survive,anything.my kids need a mom who,puts herself first,my job is to look after myself,so i can be there for them,im no good to anybody,i cant acomplish anything,unless i look after me.its not selfish,its the most selfless act you can do for everyone who cares for you.====

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I agree in principle, but I see my wife neglect herself quite a lot, so other positions seem just as possible. I expect to be a widower before she gets anywhere near 64. :-( I would not call it a choice, more a balance. If a choice should arise, it's going to be the kid getting pushed away from the bus, and me under it.

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im sorry to hear about your wife--the worst of it is,you can not control ,another human being-------dont give up hope i have a 42 yr old daughter,who recently was diagnosed,a bi polar manic,and schitzophranic. i have nearly buried this girl ,dozens of times over the years.thats why i know,you have to be your number 1 priority,with high self esteem,and the strength to endure anything,,,,,,,,i can not prioratize anybody but me,like a drowning man,they will pull you down---if i drownd,who will help her????????its not selfish to put yourself first--------look at airplane protacale-----if the oxygen masks drop----you are instructed to put it on yourself first,in ----why--------without it you die ,with it you could save every life on the plane--putting masks on everybody---------you cant be pushed under the bus unless you allow it--------and you cannot help anyone who will not help themselves---------i pray this helps------if you ever need to talk,to someone whos living it---------please write me anytime-------------sandy--------

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Well, my wife definitely will look after me, and my daughter if she remembers.

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i love your sense of humor here------ive been married 44 years,found out last year he has been cheating the last 13 years--------wife(?)shes not blood---shes the women you married,so you cant count 100% on that------now daughter shes blood........shes your best chance-----get her back into school and start honing that memory--------shes your only lifesaver that i see-----------lol-----------------

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I trust more to love than family--just look at Cain and Abel

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I am the number one priority in my life, but then I'm widowed and have no living children. To say that to feel otherwise is "wrong", though...is a bit presumptuous.

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your young ,and just starting your journey,life can throw you some real curve balls-----i dont mean to be presumptous ,im living it-----im 64,it is healthy to have good self esteem,its the only way,you can help others--------

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(smiling) I'm 53, not that far behind you, and well into the journey. Losing my husband and son to an accident was a pretty big curve ball, indeed.My self esteem is intact; helping others keeps me from turning the focus on myself into self-pity.

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tyvm,i am so sorry about yr husband and son,and i wasnt trying to be presumptuous----i still beleive if you dont look after you -who will?i was married 44 yrs and found out my husband was cheating,and i agree,im here because trying to help others,im helping myself------thanks again------

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my dog

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i dig it,i love dogs,ive owned dogs,they love unconditionally,they forgive all of our faults,and love us in spite of ourselves-------tyvm i loved your answer-----dogs are and always should be the exception to all the rules======

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Number two daughter

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No, my chosen number one priority is not myself. Yet i look after myself, like my own company, etc. <br />
It's not selfish to want to be happy and to look after yourself. It is if you put your own needs ahead of others all the time. But your point is quite good.

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tyvm,i love my 3 kids and 6 grands with a love so giving,i scare myself sometimes ,worring about them all.......its called unconditional love--------i would throw myself in front of a mac truck,for any of them,but to do this i have to look after their mother-----because they have been gifted to me========

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Yes, agree with you completely. It's easy to get completely absorbed by them and taken for granted. Look after yourself, hey.

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Guess who had too much therapy...

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you guessed it,it takes one to know one-------ty for noticing,i learned a lot in that 7 years,how to live with a terminal illness,how to prepare my children and grandchildren,that nobody"s staying........how to get my 5 :5 inch ,,72 pound daughter through bulemia,how to bury my sister,at 55 of the same disease i have,life sucks--------and then you die--------but right now im here and im living and loving every day i am gifted with============

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I apologise for being too flippant, I assure you that I was not slighting your experience in any way - I'm always willing to talk to anyone, about anything. I'm not a complete four letter word, and I do have big ears (literately and figuratively)...

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tyvm,i admit,i also too was flippant and sarcastic,with you,i am sorry----i tell people i am a perfect imperfection========sandy---

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Good stuff! Mutual respect - bless you, I hope the perfect imperfection will carry on so that that we can have enough conversations to bore each other to death; for instance, did I ever tell you about the time I simultaneously left my zipper undone and left my garage door open - it was only for a few minutes, but someone still abused my tools.

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