Whos in the wrong? Details below. Please help :(
So i have this one friend Jamie that no one really likes. Shes been rude to me in the past (told me i have a big butt and insults me daily). I invited her to my party and she didnt rsvp til the day before. Then, she invited me to this waterpark trip. I told her id go but signed up too late. I txted her and apologized and went to bed (it was like midnight). Meanwhile she signed me up for the waiting list without asking me. The mext day she told me and i found out my family was coming. They let me in and i apologized and told her i couldnt go anymore cause of my family and a book signing we were going to. She told my two besties that she threw her phone down and said she was done with me. I feel bad because this was my fault, but shes been really mean to me in the past and overreacts to situations. What should i do? Reach out to her or nothing?
7 Answers to "Whos in the wrong? Details below. Please help :("
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drop her like a hot potato, get rid, be strong she will only make your life worse, (bet can you do it? are you strong enough? are you your own person? have you got balls, so to speak?
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but,,, finger slip
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Sounds as if this person has some magor insecure problems herself. A friend, should never attack a friend ba
sed on size, race or anything of that nature. She seems self indulging and frankly from how I read your post......a spoiled b**ch. Any way, life is too short for such silly drama. Id personally would wash my hand of such a person and let your real freinds step foreward. She seems like the type who always has to be the alpha and a freined breaker. ....chances are she is jealus of you. Find new friends. Like (1)
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major is spelt like this,,,,
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Thanks, that's great advice? This has been going on since fourth grade, and although we haven't really fought much in the past two years, I'm so sick of her silly little hissy fits that waste my time and are created over nothing.
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jamie doesn't sound like she knows how to be a friend. friends don't hand out insults and pitch hissy fits. i had a drama-queen friend in high school and she was always in a pissy mood and making demands of me without checking in with me about my schedule, needs, etc. it was not a mutual happy friendship- and let me tell u, she is not a person who i stayed in touch w/ after we graduated! i realize now she was probably dealing with her unhappy home life, divorced mom and uprooted from her hometown... but to take it out on me was still not fair. you can choose who you want to hang with, and you don't have to accept Jamie's treatment. tell her you feel hurt. i wish i had said something to my friend. all i did was stay quiet and take her ****. bleah. best of luck to you. i hope Jamie gets over whatever it is that is making her so angry at the world. she has some issues that probably don't have a thing to do w/ you!
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Thanks! I'm switching schools next year anyway, so I won't see her. For the first time, I actually don't know if she's going to talk to me again (although she probably will when she finds out that I'm co hosting my best friend's, Megan's huge birthday party and Megan doesn't want to invite her). The only reason why I'm motivated to text her and ask her to hangout and apologize again is because I really want to stay in touch with my current friends next year, and it will be way easier if we're on good terms.
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no. she doesn't know how to respond in a measure that doesn't compromise, period. im sorry but you can not help your friend.im not saying you cant do anything for her. but for now if you really want to help you need a birds eye view. does that make any sense? i have tried to help people before because i wanted something good for them and i thought i could provide it. but i couldnt. and things got worse. so if you do not want to blame yourself travel a new direction for a while and then come back and see if you see then what you see now? it doesn't even have to be that long could be a couple weeks.i think you really need a fresh perspective.
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Yeah I think that's what I'm going to do. We're leaving on vacation in a week and I can't use my phone overseas, so I think that when I'll come back I'll see where I stand with her.
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in my opinion from what ive read your doesnt take your feeling into consideration much and you say shes your friend who goes and signs someone up for something before even checking in with the person i mean thats just rude then has the nerve to throw her phone well i say ya its her phone with friends like her you dont need enemies shes even creating friction between you and your besties or something she should apologize hey if she dont then you know she wasnt really your friend just look at all you said and you still apologized for your short comings and she still got mad nah she trippin believe me if it were me id tell her off long time put her in her place tell the correct way to do things
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Yeah, I did apologize. Now seeing all the responses, I don't feel as bad. She's canceled on me before, and no matter who it is I don't get mad because things come up. I normally respond with "That's totally fine, for sure another time :)". Whereas she replied with 2 whatevers, and told me that it made her look bad.
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girl that soo called friend of yours aiant so friend she sounds self obsorb everything is me me me nah hey you gotta make a choice keep her or let her go or give her a taste of her own medicine see how she likes it then
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She is not really a friend
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i wonder if she even knows she is not a good friend?
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by Nahla1996 Jul 12th, 2011 at 1:09AM
We get to choose friends, so choose wisely! Meaning do you want her in your life or no? If so then apologize but if not then don't.
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