Wht Wld U Do If Ur Husband Does Not Stand Up For U With His Family?

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bchm	Resolved Question Wht wld u do if ur husband does not stand up for u with his family? Posted 5 months ago

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I know this question is for women but i just had to say something! Those men are definitely scared... but, it is also hard too i guess. How would you defend your man from your own mother, who you love very much, when you love both of them very much? It is impossible to pick sides... you can only play middle man and i guess some people cant do it so they stay out of it.

I don't say it is the case most time because some people just don't care or... don't meddle with it in principle, whatever that would be.

I would be the middle man and would make both of them to understand each other. But to make your man choose you over their family is just plain wrong... You are his family as much as they are!

At least that is how i feel...

Posted 5 months ago

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belzebub	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 3:19PM You basically have two problems here: one with your husband not being supportive enough and another is his family. The only advice I can give is related to the second problem - his family. Stand up for yourself! I mean, that is what we should all eventually do - take care of ourselves and not wait for someone else to do it. And if you do stand up for yourself, don't go thinking endlesly how is he going to feel about it - that's his problem. Good luck. Rated: +2Vote for this!
EricS	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 10:17AM He is a ***** ***. Keep him if you want, but there are men out there who are not afraid to be proud of you and defend your honor at all times. Rated: +1Vote for this!
unicorn59	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 10:08AM I would think he's probably a mama's boy (like mine)....and that he's not mature....if he takes his committment seriously, it should be a natural thing to do. Rated: +1Vote for this!
edgargeorge	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 10:11AM Well, I certainly would not spend any time with his family. Then I would remind him that they aren't as good in bed as you are (wink). Rated: +1Vote for this!
psyko	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 10:27AM I wouldn't let his family annoy me enough to put him in that situation in the first place - my in-laws are a total pain and I just ignore them. I married him, not them and he knows it. Rated: +1Vote for this!
MysticEyes	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 10:32AM Stand up for yourself against his family and if he dare asks why you did, reply very calmly "because you clearly don't have the b*lls to defend me, so it looks like I'm on my own." If he gets arsey with you, remind him you're his wife and should be his first priority. If he wants to choose his family over you, then I think you know what needs to be done. Rated: +1Vote for this!
tights	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 10:46AM you need to ask him does he love you and is comitted to you, and to find out why he doesn't stand up for you?. He needs to look at his vows he took when he married you he needs to forsake others and to be true to you, as he is to stand by you no matter what comes hope this might help you. Good luck Rated: +1Vote for this!
RainDancer4	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 10:49AM I would ask him why. Rated: +1Vote for this!
underconstruction	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 10:58AM I was married to one. I can assure you men like that are not worthy of your time and dedication. Let him go back to his mom´s basement. Rated: +1Vote for this!
IVotedForPedro	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 11:00AM In 20 yrs, he never did, I stood up for myself and my children alone. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Sweetcitywoman	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 11:34AM Thank goodness my man has NO difficulty standing up for me among these hateful *****, but if he did not, I'd do it myself and he bet not say a thing, or he'd be getting it too ! Rated: +1Vote for this!
aaangie	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 12:44PM luckily i found this out quite recently about my ex. he's moved out and back in with his mum. its easier for him, living with someone who thinks he can do no wrong, and constantly tells him how wonderful he is! i can see that would be more appealing for a 43 year old 'man' than to live with a fiancé who has just been told she has cancer and asks for his support! these 'men' are spineless and do not have enough respect for their wives/partners to do the right thing as it would involve too much effort! i did not want to be with my ex if he thought that little of me, either that or he couldn't be bothered! Rated: +1Vote for this!
paco35	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 3:21PM Let me know when you find out. I've had the same situation reversed. My wife has a history of placing the marriage behind her mother, blood family and the family pet. She does state she feels she walks a tightrope. I have come to accept the fact she is either incapable, lacks the ability or is unwilling to deal with the situation. You need to decide if your relationship is worth keeping. If it is, heavy duty discussions are in order. Your situation addresses validation of a spouse. Its an important element of any relationship from the time were born and becomes a key survival element in marriage also. Good luck. Rated: +1Vote for this!
AmbienCR	Posted Jun 1st, 2009 at 3:48PM You should inform him that he is not being a good husband. If he challenges you show him in the Bible. It tells husbands to cling to their wife and leave his mother and father. That means you are the number one priority. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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