Why am I negative?

It's probably going to be a struggle for you. I'm not going to lie and say, "Just smile and look at the glass as half full". No. Like most people, you've been trained since youth by society, schools and parents to have a negative bias. In a really sick sense, this is considered "normal".

Breaking out will be difficult. I could give you various exercises that will help tremendously but only if done regularly and with commitment. But this, unfortunately, is why most negative people stay negative: they believe that they need it in order to feel safe, and to be better at predicting the outcome of things that are beyond their own control. The unknown scares them. Again it bears repeating: they are taught this at a young age.

Don't look at the glass half full. Smash the fu(king glass and open your mind to new possibilities. Remember: negative thinking makes you virtually indistinguishable from anyone else. You will become smarter, healthier and have more energy by thinking of things in terms of possibilities, instead of outcomes.

Your negativity stems from your subconscious mind. It has learnt to be negative or pessemisive.
Your subconscious mind is what runs on alto pilot. Learns tasks and holds your belief.

You would need to change that either by repatition of positive actions or frew something like hypnotherapy

mre imortantly why do you care if it works for you why change it

Logically it is simple but in practice it is difficult.

Sometimes our early cultural influences have a bearing on how we say things and this often arises from a backdrop of aggression or fear; it's as if one inwardly feels like a coiled-up snake ready to pounce of which one is unaware.

Another reason would be an imbalance in bodily chemistry causing one to be tetchy and sounding like it which socially puts others off.

In either case you probably feel as if you are containing your feelings and being reasonable but what comes across to the listeners is aggressiveness in tone of voice to which others take flight or retaliate in a way that is unexpected to one.

To provide a typical example, my wife (I love her to bits) does not ask nor suggest that I might consider doing something; no, she instructs, like a command which can too readily upset others but after 10 years of togetherness I have learned how to manage this problem. Somewhat oddly, when I point out what she is doing, like being her worst enemy, she understands but habit is difficult to alter.

Hard to say without knowing you...

REad these slowly...don't get mad but actually have an answer....

Were you abused as a young child?
Do you have a learning disability?
Is there nothing positive in your life?
Do you ever laugh?
Are you ever positive?
Do you have the maturity to see things more than one way?
Do you have a sense of compassion for those less fortunate?
Are you mature enough to empathize?
Are your hormones currently ruling your emotions?
Are your emotions ruling your actions?
Do you realize that obsessive thoughts of revenge, fighting and negitivity may indicate a disorder?

There is a wonderful blog by littleant where a bunch of people on a bus are either tire or angry or both....a butterfly get in the bus and everyone starts to be amused...and then smiles....What's the key for you? What makes you smile...? When did you realize you are being negitive?...Always been this way?....Bummer if so.

Find positive people...hang out on EP...Listen to bestonmyown above...Make amental decision to be positive...picture what that is ...get help from others...you won't be able to be objective...

Stop thinking only about yourself...one of the best ways to get in touch and feel better is by helping someone...If you're serious about being positive...Ask your self...
"When was the last time I helped someone?" How did it make you feel....Have you ever volunteered? How about random act of kindness...when ws the last time you gave some one something...for no reason other than it would make THEM happy? When was the last time you complimented someone...maybe someone you didn't even know???

Lastly, go to comedy central website...and read some jokes....learn one and tell some people...

Good luck...Peace

"Think of it this way. If you live in a good home, have plenty to eat and can read, you are a member of a very select group.

And if you have a good house, food, can read and have a computer, you are among the very elite.

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness ... you are more fortunate than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation ... you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.

If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest, torture, or death...you are fortunate, more than three billion people in the world can't.

If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep...you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace...you are among the top 8% of the world's wealthy.

If your parents are still alive and still married...you are very rare, even in the United States.

If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful ... you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.

If you can hold someone's hand, hug them or even touch them on shoulder ... you are blessed because you can offer a healing touch.

If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you, and furthermore, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world that cannot read at all."

Have a good day, count your blessings, Peace!

I had the same problem not so long ago. When I was a kid I was really happy, then when I hit teenage years my friends were negitive. We thought we were bad ***. I conditioned myself to think like they did and have no consideration for others and thought everyone was stupid. You have to learn to be patient and considerate. It does take a lot of time and it's all in your control. I still have my moments like when I am driving and someone pulls out in front of me to go 40mph. All I'm saying is you can condition yourself to think more positive again.

This is more often than not, a learned way of dealing with life. Un learn it. Watch what you say, try being supportive. Practice it. Negative people tend to be lonely old farts !