Why am I so insecure about my boyfriend?

It seems your needs aren't being met and that may be part of your insecurity which I find quite understandable. I guess you have to decide whether its due to his treatment or whats inside you. You are the one best qualified to figure that out. If its him you'll have to express your feelings to him and if he doesnt want to help then he probably doesnt care much and it may be time to move on. If its in you then you have to look at how you can help yourself. He can help too but its mainly you as change is something we have to decide for ourselves.

On the other hand it can be extremely frustrating being punished for an affair you've never ever had. I've been there too....

take charge of the relationship

ffs. woman: definition of insanity.

I can understand how you feel... me too ... I also feel insecure with my previous relationship but get to know that he has an affairs with someone else. I was very very very ANGRY...and end up breaking up with him.... it is very difficult for me as a woman as he took my virginity and he has been my only man I love...Really sad!! and I begging not to trust man easily!!

i can relate to this im going through this myself with my first husband , im 50 hes 26 ,, so i know why im insecure , im always thinking he will leave me for a younger girl even he says its not like him to do that but my thinking is messed up, i want to just relax and be happy in my first marriage but wow i didnt know i was gonna have to raise him myself he knows very little about life and love , his parents should have taught him better than this , so i think,, hes still in algeria im in canada , his culture is way different than mine , im feeling silly for even talking about this , cause as i type i am seeing this is probably more my fault than his , buyt every time i want the day to go by without getting angry he kills it and i get viciously angry with him , the things i say amazes me , i ask myself where did i get this from , im not real sure if its cause he pressures me so much about immigration or im real mad at myself for getting involved with a child like minded man ,, and when i say something he comes out and says you mean this and omg it frustras me to the boiling point and it takes me forever to calm down in the mean time my mouth just doesnt stop , oh how i hate myself sometimes ,,, and i do love him so much so i dont know what to do , i dont want to hurt any more i think of suicide to much cuz i rather die than live without him ,

Sounds like you don't trust him. It also sounds like you're insecure about yourself, that's why you don't want to be single. Maybe you're just possesive. If you're in a relationship where you don't trust your partner and you're always wondering where he is, what he's doing etc sometimes it's better to be single than to be in a relaitonship, but not a good one where you can trust your bf. He sounds a little disinterested... some signs are if he changes his story, won't hangout in certain groups with you, looks uncomfortable around certain other girls, other girls are super friendly with him, more than ordinary. Can he look you in the eye when he says he's not cheating? Good luck.

You're probably just afraid of being alone, dying unloved and all that. Lots of young people get that kind of anxiety. I don't know if that's the main reason behind it, but maybe it's part of it.

Your insecurity stems from low self-esteem. Get some therapy, read "The Road Less Travelled" and be single for a couple of years. That'll work :o)

Go about your own life as if he doesn't exist. It may seem difficult to you, but it's really the only and best way to move forward. Find a career. Have a life that has nothing to do with him. If he's an a-shole, then it is no big deal because you will already have a life outside of him. Trust me, I've been down this road.