i was gonna go with the whole, maybe we are not all shallow rubbish that everyone else seems to be spouting, but for me they just look damn sexy, cant tell you why but cant tell you why not either. i guess for the same reason anyone is attracted to anyone,they make you feel good when you think about them
Men are attracted to personality more than others think.
Thank you. :-)
We are not all shallow.
Maybe because they care about the person INSIDE and aren't shallow? Yeah, I'm gonna go with that answer. :-)
that doesn't really change the answer. many people are physically attracted when they LIKE someone ;)
Because we are so damn sexy. ;-) lol But no really, I don't understand why some thinner women have to hate so much if a man finds a larger woman sexy. I am big and I know I am beautiful. But If I am not your cup a tea, that's fine too. And thin women are women too, not every woman is built the same. Weather your fit with some curves or a little bigger, as long as your a good person I think you should be considered beautiful.
Not all men are attracted to 1 style, we all have our tastes. Some guys like some chunk to hold on to. And theres a new breed of overweight women who have sex appeal now. They have a lot of swagger, very sexy.
I am a man who has been in the "closet" about my attraction to chubby women all my life. I am considered good looking by most and have dated and had sex with many thin women whom society would call beautiful, but unless I develop a real mental connection with these women I cant even get off. Chubby women on the other hand can access a primal seemingly "shallow" part of me that needs no depth or connection for me to want them sexually, its all physical and if they have a great personality well all the better. Some of these posts are great examples of why I sometimes feel the need to be "closeted" about my sexual preference, the ignorance of most people is astounding. We are all born different and have different tastes, get it through your thick skulls! I wish I could say I didn't care about how I look to other people, but I continue to openly date thin "beautiful" women especially when I feel the need to be more accepted by friends and family and secretly date thick women that I personally find much more beautiful and arousing. I am working on learning not to care what others think tho, I realize that I can never be happy until I learn this. As far as people who think we somehow choose what sexually arouses us or that we have a some mental problem if we are not attracted to who the media tells us to want, well you people make me sick and burden my life with hurt-full judgment, judgment you have no right to make. Why is anyone attracted to anyone? Who can really say? But if we were all attracted to the same attributes 99% of the world would be going after the same 1% of the population, which leaves 99% of society lonely and rejected feeling 100% of the time, doesn't add up to a happy life for you or the rest of us who aren't Brad Pitt (who is short btw) or Angelina Jolie (who is grossly boney in my opinion)
This is nice to hear :-) I myself have had weight issues all my life...I've been thin and by society's standards pretty hot....I am struggling to muse weight once again and I have recently started a new relationship which I am almost ruining because I keep feeling insecure wondering how anyone could possibly be attracted to me...I didn't know that there are men that really do find a thicker woman sexually attractive....I know that personality is a factor and all that but if you don't know a person than you can't add that factor ...it all would boil down to physical attraction...leaving us nice sweet smart bigger girls out in the dark. So point being....thanks for your post...it has given me a little more security in the looks department. :-)
i feel sorry for you. by dating women you don't like for social perceptions you are cheating yourself out of progressing your life meaningfully in that arena imo. Not to mention wasting that lady's time on a relationship that is already doomed, and depriving some other, more suitable lady, of a partner that she would love... I hope you can get over the image concerns and exercise your freedom properly.
I dunno know... but thank GOD!
I don't know what you mean by fat. I once saw a woman in Walmart that was so big that you could balance a wine glass on her butt. I don't know... is that what we're talking about here or are we talking about 30-40lbs overweight?
Have you always been a loser?
Nigel....so serious. Try have a laugh now and then.
Id definately have to agree with Nigel.
You look like a nice lady...sometimes I just write witty things and don't realize the question isn't a joke, like allot of the queations, but an honest one from a person who truly wants to know. Many of these pages of questions are set up as humor or "got-ya!"
Ha....I hit a instead of s on question. Does that make me stupid?
They aren't. If a guy says he is, he is probably a generally unattractive man.
A generally unattractive male, you mean like you?
I'm one of those men. I like thin women too, but fat women (thick, voluptuous, full-figured) really get my hormones flowing! They usually have cute faces for kissing, big breasts to put my head between, bubble butts to kiss and bite, ... ahem! I was at a drum circle last week and a hot woman was there. She had muffin tops and it drove me wild in a good way! Her t-shirt was too short so I saw those muffin tops in all their glory. Mmmm! I definitely wanted to eat her! :) Gee! Just the thought is making me feel great!<br />
The woman in your avatar is beautiful too.
And you not finding that attractive is your opinion. And you're entitled to it. But why is he delusional because he found her so sexy? That's like saying gay men are equally delusional because they find men more attractive then women. Everyone has their own sexual preferences.
Ok, i understand what you are saying now, that's not how I took your first comment. Yes, women should wear clothes that fit, love handles are not sexy on anyone. I shop at lane bryant and there is a very pretty big girl working there but she wears clothes that doesn't always flatter her body type. No matter how big you are you should always care about your appearance.
That's extremely offensive, though it's your opinion, believe it or not many men love bbw.
poorly fitting clothes can be attractive - it might seem weird to you but the human mind is complex and varied. making blanket sweeping statements about it in this kind of detail is quantifiably delusional (unlike the original comment). a simple and less extreme example than a belly hanging out is wearing a bra thats a bit too small... a decent number of men will find that attractive in my experience.
as an aside - if you compare men and womens clothes, the style of womens clothes can often be described as an intentional kind of poorly fitting version of the male equivalent. Clothes are frequently much too tight or too loose, lack coverage - exposing chest, belly, legs, large swathes of upper body etc. and are geared for appearance rather than practical value - being highly ornamental rather than functional.
it is Scientifically proven that men are naturally attracted to big boned women because they know that big women are better to carry a baby, same with why they're attracted to women with big breasts, they hold more milk. Whether you notice it or not, every body who has gone through puberty is looking to repopulate, and heavy set women = a healthy baby. :)
I am one of those overweight woman. Would I rather be slimmer? Yes! But I don't seem to manage. However, I do consider myself rather lucky to get quite a lot of male attention and funny enough it that was pretty much the same when I was slimmer (about 10 years ago I was 5'8 and 12 stones, now I am 5'8 and 17 stones). I've never been skinny but was slim and now I am fat with the same amount of male attention. The only reason I would like to be slimmer is to be healthier obviously.
Here's the thing, it's not just someone's measurements that make them sexy. I for one love my woman to not have to rationalize eating a pizza or having a beer with me. I find that there is beauty in all shapes. Why do I prefer overweight women? Well they usually understand that they are not perfect which means I don't have to deal with a stuck up snob who thinks she is all that. I have also found overweight women to be very kind. As for measurements, I LOVE hips. I saw a women who was probably at the weight suggested for her, no hips, looked like a little girl. I love curves, its what makes the women.
SO referring to the specific situation, maybe he is more attracted to her because of their personalities? If it was between your avatar and a larger woman, I choose you everytime. <br />
I'm not the skinniest guy around, but I spend a lot of time working out and watching what I eat, I don't want somebody who doesn't do the same. I'm not judging the person ba<x>sed on their outward appearance but I am making an educated assumption about their lifestyle. I also don't tend to find that attractive, reminds me too much of my Mother... who I love dearly, but I'm not sexually attracted to.
Good question Scarlet........as the number of answers would support. I personally am not attracted to overweight women. I don't judge them, have many as friends, but not attractive at all. It's a matter of personal taste. Some guys like big breasts, big butts....whatever. I prefer pretty faces, breast size is irrelevant, but love great legs. And I don't think it's an Oedipus thing either, though my mother wasn't thin, and I like thin. Women are God's greatest creation........for some cryptic reason.
I am morbidly obese. What I have learned about myself is that I use fat as a kind of armor so that I will not be attractive to men. I believe this to be the case because I was sexually molested as a child. When men come on to me who obviously have some sort of fetish, it actually scares me a little because I am afraid that I will buy into that person and believe they can love me for who I am. And if I were to believe that then I open myself up to possible rejection. However if I remain unattractive to 99% of men then I "safe" from heartbreak.
They give the best head.
Such a lie... Pornstars give the best head.
Some guys are, just as some girls like a big guy. Plenty of guys would just as soon their gal be thin and would find an overweight girl to be unattractive. Personally, I think most girls have some attractive features, no matter what their "problem" areas may be.
Everyone has a different opinion. In my opinion, big girls are sexy.