Why are relationships always chosen over friendships?
I'm not necessarily talking about the two week ones, but even the two year ones. When does it get to the point where someone decides that the person they're dating deserves more importance than the best friend that has been there for the past 5 years of their life? Why, given a choice, do people always choose their boyfriend/girlfriend over their best friend? Does friendship mean nothing?
11 Answers to "Why are relationships always chosen over friendships?"
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I don't have an answer, but I know exactly what you mean. My best friend changed completely earlier this year and our friendship ended badly. I wish I had an answer.
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Sometimes it helps knowing that other people can relate :) Losing your best friend sucks though - I've been there. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it :)
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Friendship does mean something, but it depends on perspectives. I think the "majority" would feel that their "loved ones" matter much more. I feel empty because I actually feel friends AND loved ones should be treated equally.
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I agree with that. I'm glad I've found someone that feels the same way :)
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If u do n't go for date with ur lover or u postpone it, they will be disappointed and will express it. But friends when get sidelined will understand it and does not take it into mind. But because of this good quality friends r always sidelined.
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I feel that if a person isn't secure enough to -shudder- "allow" his/her significant other to hang out with his/her friends, then that person is in nooooo place to even be in a relationship.
I just went through this situation with my best friend and am happy to say we're now on the outside of it...minus the controlling boy.
My advice to you is just to let your friend know how much you will always love her and be there for her. She'll figure it out eventually :)Like (1)
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well sad but natural some people get too caught up in the relationship as if they just signed a sort of a contract ...its sad but for those that this cosept works more power to ya...i juz don't c y? Aren't we all askin a bit too much? Y put ur friendships to an end ? And isent the same as askin ur familys friendship to end? Y even be put through this ? How do you even know if it's all worth it n the end? Sad answer is you don't so y even chance given up a friendship....it could be all for nothing.....friends are way more important. Good luck n all
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They think the friendship can overcome it. I guess. I've always made the mistake of choosing the friend. Even when I knew they wouldn't do the same.
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I've never had to choose one or the other. I really don't think I could, it just makes no sense to. I'd find time to spend with both my friends and whoever i'm dating at the time. I've known my best friend since I was in the 3rd grade, I trust him more then any other person so I couldn't imagine not being his friend anymore. I could never give someone an ultimatum like it's me or your friend or the other way around.
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This isn't true! I even turned someone down because she didn't get along with my sister!
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Would you have done the same thing 2 years into the relationship?
But I'm talking about friends =P lolLike (1)
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My friends comes and go. A lot of them left my life because they found a significant other. It took me time to realize that they do need spend a lot of time with that person. In doing so, they sacrifice their relationship with me since they have little time to spend.
A lot of my friends try to manage their time but it's just too exhausting. If they don't spend enough time with their significant other then they may lose that relationship.
It's a matter of priorities. I hate it too but it's not like they are given options. Plus, some of their significant others would feel jealous if they spent a lot of time w/ their friends. It's like why don't you have time for me but you have time for your friends!?!?!?Like (1)
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Yeah I can see that, but I've always encouraged my significant other to spend more time with their friends.
Friendships can be lost for the same reason too though.Like (1)
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this is bullshit!!!!!!
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What makes you say that?
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Posted by Jujalee Dec 15th, 2010 at 3:57AM
we like to believe there's a sense of permanence that we can find in a relationship that cannot be found in a friendship.. in other words.. we like thinking that eventually the relationship will give us unconditional love. However, it's far from the truth.. you can find the same in friendship, sometimes more so than in a relationship.
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Reply by in0centbeauty23 Dec 14th, 2010 at 11:07PM
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