Why are some women and some men, so violent, control freaks, manipulative and disrespectful to their partners?
10 Answers to "Why are some women and some men, so violent, control freaks, manipulative and disrespectful to their partners?"
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Insecure, low self-esteem, ego driven, afraid and no self worth.
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they are abusers
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Lousy role models for some of them. A lot of that behavior is learned.
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they are humans and need to feel in controllof soemthing as ever thiging else is coming undone
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simply because we are only fooling ourselves thinking we can live together in harmony,,we should live on separate island with visiting hours.....we are going against nature, trying to be monogamous ......
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Usually if you could go back and look at their childhood and see how their Mother and Father treated them, you would find the answer. Lots of times when kids grow up and become men and women, they mirror what their Moms or Dads were like when they were growing up. If a boy sees his Dad being verbally abusive to his Mom, he is going to grow up and be the same way nine times out of ten. If children are beaten and abused, they will become violent when they are adults. If they feel powerless and afraid when they are children, they will become control freaks or manipulators.
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Because they are scared of something.
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Some people are butts.
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Does it really matter, just steer clear of them.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by Vessa Jan 13th, 2011 at 12:50AM
Some people operate in a different "reality" when it comes to human interaction. And that reality is one of having power over other people. They don't operate with a sense of mutuality. They just want to "win". So they employ whatever means they must to insure that. That might involve making themselves indifferent to the rights or feelings of others. Anything that interferes with being in control is sacrificed. If necessary, they twist reality within their own minds. So that the victim is the one who receives the blame. Many controllers are so much into their little game that they will discard and subjugate their own emotions and consciences. Empathy or love can be a nuisance when you are trying to win a contest or subjugate everyone around you.
Why are they like this?
Some are raised that way. They follow the mindset they observed in a parent. Some have been taken advantage of and struggle to prevent that from ever happening again. Some are just narcissistic or sociopathic and enjoy pushing others' buttons. Abusers consider themselves superior, entitled, and justified.
And it is good to remember...... No matter how much someone has been hurt or abused in the past, the decision to be an abuser is voluntary. It is about values and attitudes. Choosing to disrespect other people. To abuse is a CHOICE.
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