obviously the duct tape is a little old and the rope is rotted...get some new ones
You really need to sit down and talk. I wish my husband and I would have talked more before he had an affair at almost 17 years of marriage. His fears of becoming old, unworthy, useless, the children avoiding him, all the things you are describing, became a horrible nightmare that took a lot of counseling, fighting and determination to get over the thought of another woman having sex with my husband. My nightmare became my reality. Don't put it off and let this happen to you.
Don't know, we are at 22 and good to go, working at getting retired.
Perhaps becasue you haven't worked on being with him in a really long while.