Because men lie about themselves. They say they are height weight proportionate when the are sporting a beer gut and a bald head. They tell women that they are well off when they barely have enough money to pay for dinner at a chain restaurant. If he isn't willing to do anything but play on the internet to find someone then why would a woman think he would be willing to go anywhere and take her out someplace? People who spend too much time cooped up inside end up messed up. They lack sufficient social skills necessary to converse with another person. They do not talk, they do not think. They only type what they think. Lack of proper interaction makes them indoor freaks.
Because there are men out there who will hurt them if they are not careful, and there is no way to know who can be trusted and who can not. If a guy isn't okay with meeting in a public place and take his time getting to know the woman then he's not worth meeting.
Maybe because we are afraid that the guy (or girl for that matter) could be a weirdo. Then again, who is to say that you don't run the same risk meeting someone offline? Until you get to know someone there is always a risk.
People can be whoever they want to be online...and that is not the person they actually are. I agree with WSA on the social skills... often they are lacking
Both men and women are scared of meeting people online as well as in most places. People need social proof, signs of established relationships, to hint that it is safe to get together with someone. If you look at the statistics for sexual abuse and rape, you will understand why woman are scared.<br />
On the other hand, fear can paralyze people into never establishing relationships and you may never really know how dangerous someone is, even after many years of knowing them.<br />
You may want to just email a woman and get her to instantly see how great you are and come home with you that day, but get over it. You should go through the process necessary to make her feel safe and comfortable and realize that this process will also protect you.
I am...don't want to die.
It is not just on-line
because there scared of murders and rapists and you can never be sure who ur really talking to
Women are scared to meet men everywhere. Being a women isn't easy. Date rape pill man thing
One of humanities (not just women's) basic fears: Fear of the unknown. Funny thing is, in reality, it is probably no more dangerous than meeting someone in any of the more 'acceptable' ways. There are many good people that socialize and meet others through the internet, and I'd like to think that they are the vast majority. Of course, you are going to have a few sick and twisted predators out there that use the net as their 'hunting ground'. Then again, other predators use malls, bars, schools, and a host of other places to find potential victims, so it is really a moot point. If I were one of these predatory types (and, I am not, but you don't have to believe me....lol) I would think that the net wouldn't be the best place to hunt, as it comes built in with a potential trail of evidence, and paranoia surrounding it, due to the one-off, isolated, yet sensationalized cases that do happen from time to time. The truth is, the world is a dangerous place, whether solid or virtual, and especially so for those that do not use some common sense, and discretion, which is the real problem, and can get you into trouble, regardless of the medium of introduction.
Men in the real world are messed up enough..
I think you have to show caution with EVERYONE you meet online!! Folks can hide a LOT behind a keyboard. I'd be just as wary of meeting up with a woman, for casual friendship, as I would a man for romantic reasons. I still would meet folks but I'd be very careful.<br />
I would definitely talk to a romantic interest for awhile and then move to more "visual" means of getting to also "see" who they are before wanting to meet and get to know each other in real time and ONLY then would I begin to consider a real relationship with the person. <br />
I also agree with wildspectrum and RedRubies about folks who spend too much time typing and sometimes lacking social skills.
Some are... Some are not.... I am not...
it is a risk, mayby he is somekind of freak,crazy.......and who knows what else....
how would you feel if you met a really nice girl/guy and after a good dinner they went out back and raped you, robbed you and murdered you? <br />
wait...you wouldn't feel anything...you'd be dead...hehe~!<br />
the two scenarios aren't even remotely the same...i highly doubt this person has access to get to every woman in the world. Sounds like you need to expand your horizons and meet new people
I'd feel the same way I do everyday. Alone, lost, afraid, hurt, traumatized. But, you know I don't depend on other people's love to live.
Because they know what they want.