Maybe you don't feel good in your relationship anymore. Not something wrong with you personally. Ppl change in a marriage, and then after years go by it's like you don't know your partner anymore, not how he/she used to be. Lots of couples go through that, it's up to you two to do something about it together, or decide it's better to break up, that's entirely up to you both!
Pls let me know when you have posted details. I can't relax around my partner either and I am very interested in your story/question.
Who (if anyone) from your past does he remind you of?
I understand that when one can't relax around another person, a decision to relax doesn't work. Something else is going on and needs to be addressed. I'll respond to your question about why I can't relax around my partner in a message.
There are no details and that is why you cannot relax.
What is wrong with you is that YOU do not want to be in this relationship any more and you do not want it to go further ! But it seems that you feel stuck in it and that is just something that you will have to get over so you can end it and move on.
No you have it a bit wrong my dear. You want to be in "A" relationship, but NOT this relationship. YOU need to go someplace quiet and think about this situation and really ask yourself honestly, do you want this for the rest of your life?
READ WHAT YOU WROTE !!! i do want him. Just not the way it is. You DON'T want him, You want to CHANGE him. and that is NOT him at all.
You really need to think about this long and hard to get it straight in your head as to what you really want. Simply put if you want HIM, then you have to accept HIM and take HIM as he is. Or You do not really want HIM after all.
OK you just stepped into the next realm of WHAT THE F_CK !
If you or any woman sticks around with a man that abuses you, then you deserve it.
I am going to be totally point blank, up front, in your face, HONEST, and ask this, ARE YOU THAT DAMN STUPID? If anyone out on the street beat you would you just go back on the street again for a second beating? HELL NO ! So don't stick with an abuser.
He is a worthless coward that has to make himself feel like a man by abusing a woman.
YOU ARE making excuses for it, and YOU ARE covering up for him, and YOU ARE playing right into the good old abusers game of it was YOUR FAULT THAT YOU MADE ME DO IT... So I hope you figure this out and get away before they take you off in a body bag because this is exactly how it happens. Just a one time thing and then before you know it you are missing teeth and clumps of hair and broken bones. Then dead. Go to a womans shelter and ask them if you do not believe me.
you dint leave any details