Why can't i relax around my partner...see details.
Smetimes i love him. Others i want him gone. We have had our ups and downs but I'm hopeful we will sort through them. But even when I'm 'loving him' i cannot relax. I am happier when he is not at home. And dread him coming home. When he is not here i can go about my daily business totally relaxed. Get my housework done, relax when i want and do my college work. When he comes home i turn into idle mode. Its hard to explain but for example if i was on my own and the adverts came on the tv i would get up and do something...check facebook, tidy up etc...but if he is here i just stare into space. I am like a different person and i just cannot feel completely comfortable. I will just sit on the couch like a zombie from the minute he gets home till we go to bed. And i am happy again when he goes to work and dread the weekends when he is off work because i cannot be myself. I don't understand why i am like this because i do love him and have never been happier with anyone, i don't even eat when he is here... I have no appetite. Its like a personality change. I am all bubbly with my friends or home alone but around him at home i just CANNOT RELAX. Whats wrong with me? :(
6 Answers to "Why can't i relax around my partner...see details."
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that happened to me. wrong partner
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Maybe you can tell him this and ask him to be more affectionate? If he was, do you think that would help?
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I wish it would... He doesn't communicate with me. Sometimes im talking and he asks me to stop talking. He can say his piece but when it comes to mine he doesn't want to listen. Or when i have a problem and would like to talk he thinks i am just telling him how bad a boyfriend he is... But I'm not. Im saying it to try and work through things together... But he wont listen to that either. Every time i try and talk about anything that bothers me he just says i complain. Or is not interested.
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Hmm. I probably wouldn't be comfortable with him either. Do you know someone who is a friend to both of you? Maybe you can ask that person over and then address your problems with them acting like a sort of moderator that makes sure everyone gets heard and things aren't just swept under the rug. Might help, might not. Tough situation.
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Pls let me know when you have posted details. I can't relax around my partner either and I am very interested in your story/question.
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Details here...
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There are no details and that is why you cannot relax.
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Haha... Sorry... The details are there now.
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What is wrong with you is that YOU do not want to be in this relationship any more and you do not want it to go further ! But it seems that you feel stuck in it and that is just something that you will have to get over so you can end it and move on.
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you dint leave any details
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They are there now.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by kelly1981 1 Jan 4th, 2013 at 6:36PM
Maybe you don't feel good in your relationship anymore. Not something wrong with you personally. Ppl change in a marriage, and then after years go by it's like you don't know your partner anymore, not how he/she used to be. Lots of couples go through that, it's up to you two to do something about it together, or decide it's better to break up, that's entirely up to you both!
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