they can, I am...
you just have to accept that some people are idiots...
Two reasons I can think of off the top of my head. Some seek the acceptance and admiration of others as a placeholder for their self-esteem and will morph themselves into whatever they think will achieve that end. Some would rather others deal with a facade rather than risk the possibility of being rejected for who they really are. Both suffer from low self-esteem and require external validation.
For many reasons.
Dont know how.
Been burned to many times.
People only looking for faults so they try to hide them.
Lots do play games so those people at the receiving end cant be themselves.
Sounds like it's a former friend--lose her.
I don't see why this is still bothering you, then. Forget about it. You have a long life ahead to make real friends.
Good luck--by the way - I have no contact with my friends from high school--after 40 years I've made new friends and have nothing in common with the old ones.
Maybe she just feels insecure about herself? People are afraid of what they do not know, or indeed what they cannot confront (especially when it is about themselves)?
Be warned! This is a tangent. :-)
Being yourself is overrated, at least at work.
I have an employee who constantly brings her family drama to work, and frankly we would rather she just do her job and keep it to herself. This is the same employee who is going through menopause, and we wish she would stay silent and just do her work when the evil moods hit her.
There's another employee who frequently gossips, and again, it'd be better for all of us if she would keep that to herself and just do her job.
I think part of civility is keeping stuff to oneself. This "letting it all hang out" culture started here in the US in the eighties with the talk shows and counseling and the like.
The saddest thing is that they CAN be themselves but they make "choices" not to be.... :( Don't worry tho. The world has lots of good folks who are "real" Keep your eye out for em and hang onto them when you find them!! :)
Because Their Afraid Of People Judging Them, And Peoples Disapproval. Because They Don't Realize What Others Say Is Not Important And That Their Opinions Shouldn't Matter Because Theirs No Way One Can Please The World And Still Remain True To Ones Self.
People who can't be themselves, do not like themselves. It doesn't have to be their whole self they don't like, but I guarantee there is something about them they don't like which causes them to act a certain way to mask their behavior. If it is a behavior the person can change, and it isn't a good one, they should mask it and work on changing it.
In my experience, they can...and do.
Even if being themselves means that they want to impress others so much that they act a certain way.
I am myself. =)
People like to put on a mask to hide their true feelings.
They can try to be something else... but the truth always emerges. Usually, it is born of insecurity.
Who else would they be...
Sounds to me she never was a real friend and you are better off without her...Be who you are always