Why can't people understand that when my brother died, I died with him?

Asked By: Sparda78 31-35, F 6 months ago

My Brother and I found our Mother dead in bed - then within 14 months my only siblings was murdered. How am I supposed to deal with life?

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Posted by NedKelly1 1 Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:14AM

When my son died my life was shattered

I don't know how you feel but I can feel the pain of your parents

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Reply by Sparda78 Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:28AM

Wish I had parents :( My Dad has his own life now - so he keeps telling me x
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Posted by burstin2go Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:18AM

My stepbrother died when we were 21. He had been my best pal at primary School, before becoming my stepbrother.
My dad died when I was 8, another good pal died when we were 12, and then my stepbrother at 21.
Death seems to have followed me around and although the pain is always there to some degree, life does go on. Time and tender words will help, as will a lot of hugs and support

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Posted by JustPlainBarb Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:15AM

They aren't in your "shoes".

But I'm sure they want to help you heal too.

Death is a very sad part of life .. we all have to deal with it in our own ways. We just can't let it make us stop living. I'm sure your brother wouldn't want that for you either.

He'll always be in your heart! The loss will get easier to cope with after time.

Please take care.

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Posted by saturnseeker Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:14AM

take it you mean emotionally. I kinda know the feeling.

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Posted by pixelbest Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:13AM

Sorry for your loss. Understandable, but think what would your brother want. I am sure he would want you to carry on with life, have fun, be happy. Know it is not easy, but that is what got me over losing people I love.

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Posted by Veilside04 Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:13AM

Because they probably refuse to accept that you would give up on life, the same as you refuse to accept that you have to continue life. I'm sure your brother would not want you to give up though, just my opinion.
-btw- my condolences on your loss

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Posted by Sharkattackbate Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:13AM

Because you are still here huni .. They want you with them x

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Posted by ghirmay Dec 9th, 2012 at 6:42AM

i'm sorry for your lost and no one is gonna understand you unless they have lost someone close to them.

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Posted by MeteorDeath Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:46AM

because they dont really care anyway

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Posted by Tummytocker Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:33AM

In reality, there is no such thing as separation. Time and space really are an illusion; there is only eternity and true love is eternal. He hasn't really gone anywhere.

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Posted by chipperchick Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:21AM

My youngest brother died 12 yrs ago..

It never leaves your mind..and if Adam is in my mind and in my heart, he will always be..with me..

Like Ned, my parents life is shattered, scattered like his ashes, under the avocado tree, on our Kibbutz.

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Reply by Sparda78 Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:29AM

OMG... My brother was named Adam... shocked me reading this x
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Reply by chipperchick Dec 9th, 2012 at 5:38AM

I give you my wishes..and, I didna read the comment under you question..I don;t know what to say..
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