Why can't some people accept the end of a relationship gracefully?

get a video camera if you don't have one borrow one and record from your house when he comes over that is all the cops need is prove that he has violated his court order.
Stop trying to hit him because if you do he could press charges on you in a heartbeat. Don't go out when he comes over that is what he wants he want to get a rise out of you and your sister. Just get proof that he has broken the order and you should be able to take care of loser boy.

I feel that it's called obsession and controlling.

The rejected person is controlled with obsessiveness and with not letting go. For some reason, they think they are the only one, that can and will be "with" the person, that rejected them.

I don't want to frighten you or your niece, but do be very, very careful and watchful!!!

Hurt feeling or just controling

he is so obsessed with your niece.. i once had a bf which after breaking up he constantly calling me and following me where ever i go... had his friends called me at my home and asking me to give him another chance.. he even begged me to take him back and it is ok to him even if i already have new bf as long as when ever we are in the school campus we are bf/gf... sick... good thing i am a black belter

That is a very scary situation to be in. But I do hold my hand up to this type of behaviour also, although what I did never actually frightened the person at all.

After my break up, I grieved so deeply, the ache was unbearable, he 'd been an alcoholic, always lying to me, quite a temper etc...you get the idea..but I loved him so much!..bearing in mind I was only 19 and still very much developing in my emotions and in finding out who I was.

Just to be near him, I would walk the dog near to his flat, in the field where I could see the bedroom window from, not thinking in the present more reminiscing about the things we used to do, our moments in that room together..all of that. I did this for weeks, I don't remember how long exactly but after a while, I felt that I needed closure, so I went, knocked on the door and told him that I wasn't going to wait for him and that I was going to get on with my life.

He just said, "that's fine". "Good". I didn't detect any sarcasm or anything, we always had a very deep connection and often knew each others thoughts.

And that was that. To you, the reader, the outsider if you like..that must read as too odd but I just put it down to the grieving part of a break up, and I gave myself the time to heal and to admit that it was over.

I am 31 now, and I don't feel any different or have regrets about all that.

If the relationship/friendship was broken off without any kind of explanation.......it is hard to just go about things as if you never felt a thing.

Some people just can't let go. If they did, things would be a lot simpler for everyone, particularly that person.

Like cancerian, I've also had feelings where letting go has been difficult. You keep returning to the places where you went to during the relationship trying hard to find some remains of the feelings that came before.

Thankfully, eventually, they do fade, given time.

I have also experienced first-hand the hatred and jealousy of a person who thinks they are somehow better or above everyone else when they are obsessing about a person (in this case, being obsessed over a woman), and it is not pretty.

In some cases, the obsessed person lays claim to a relationship or feelings that never even existed. It's quite sad, and extremely painful for everyone involved.

Having been on both sides of that equation, I feel for that person. But it doesn't justify their bad behavior, all you can do is firmly tell them they need to let things go until they do, or ignore them.

It's better to put the onus on *them* to let things go.

You can't *make* them do something they don't want to do. They are in their own world and will deal with it on their own weird schedule, in many cases...

As I said, pretty terrible. They need to choose to let the pain go so they can move on and be happy.

I wish people would too I have in the past lost it totally over a bf ending things but now I tend to end things if its not working. But my past experiences make me look really bad 3 of my ex's killed themselves but it was not over me however one other ex attempted to kill themself to try to get me back with him the pathetic man I finished with him for good reason he did not come round when I told him I was really ill my son who was 11 at the time found me out cold on the floor and had to call the emergency services I nearly died so yeah he deserved to be dumped.

S-t-a-l-k-e-r

Divorce actually does ruin at least one person's life- and if they actually loved the person, they will act very irrational at this tim. Divorce is very messy and sad. I feel for the person who can not let go. Even though I do no know him I am going to pray for him. It is sad that I see comments judging someone who they do not even know and who know only about the situation from your small comment. I will ask for a miracle for this guys life- especially if injustice was done to him. God will make his life right, since he is not the one who wanted the divorce.