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Why did he break up with me?

my ex and i dated for a few months and we fell in love. he would tell me he loved me all the time..and we even talked abt marriage in the future. everything was fine until one day he found out his unit (he's in the Army Reserve) was put on alert. i noticed that he would distance himself and then we hung out one night and he broke up with me in the mall parking lot. a couple of days before he said he would always love me and that he didnt want to be hurt if i moved on while he was away( im about to go to college, so he's nervous abt all the new guys that r there
). he said if he came back and he was expecting me to have moved on then it wouldnt hurt as much. i am brokenhearted..but we still talk occasionally and he says he misses me all the time. i dont know if i should move on completely or just wait til he comes back? he could possibly be gone from a year to 18months, but i'm still in love with him.

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I think that he honestly believes that breaking up with you was the best decision for both of you. He wouldn't be away worrying if you are being unfaithful or that you met someone else and you wouldn't be sitting around waiting for him to come back.

You have only been dating for a few months and I think that it is best for you to accept the break up because waiting for someone for a year, when you've only been together for 3 months is a lot harder than it sounds.

You are still young and if it's meant to be with him, it will be in the future.

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Other 8 Answers to Why did he break up with me?

RikBra	Posted Aug 13th, 2009 at 12:39PM Well Listen to your heart Girl! If You honestly love him and can wait then the question is moot! If Not then move on! otherwise you'll feel like you have been waiting for guilt and then it will surface later and then what? Rated: +1Vote for this!
RachelR	Posted Aug 13th, 2009 at 12:42PM Becuz he's an *******. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Lacsar	Posted Aug 13th, 2009 at 12:46PM he's a lying sack of ****, has no intention of fidelity, and is taking the chickenshit way out - there are three things you do in college and TWO of them are sex......one of them is party and some even study and go to class......you'll both see when you get there....enjoy it - for now move on and look forward to your own exploits....your gonna meet WAY cooler guys than him.... Rated: +1Vote for this!
TheGoldenBear	Posted Aug 13th, 2009 at 12:47PM Sounds like he has a lot of important stuff coming up. Going to war, etc. I am sure he didn't want to complicate things. He couldn't have his head in the game if he was thinking about you. He needs to focus and he is letting you not spend you time focusing on him at war. Rated: +1Vote for this!
ez123	Posted Aug 13th, 2009 at 12:49PM Needed u wouldnt or couldnt provide Rated: +1Vote for this!
emperorofcali	Posted Aug 13th, 2009 at 12:54PM Why stay with him emotionally? Did he stay for you physically? Did anyone put a gun to his head and sign him up for the army? The bottom line is, people make choices. For him, you weren't #1. He/you can rationalize it all you want, but the equation comes out the same: you weren't a priority. He can cry, you can cry, all the dramatic breakup lines in the world can be exchanged. He is still leaving because you weren't as important. There isn't anything "bad" about that. It's just a choice. On the other hand, if it's ok to take second place to someone living with a bunch of men and playing out army fantasies, that's perfectly fine, too. Alot of women settle for being secondary to things like that when their partners go hang out with other guys at work and watch sports or drink together. Your age has nothing to do with anything, nor your "inexperience". If you love him more than you love yourself, it's an excellent option to remain "in love" with him and commit yourself to a vacant human being. Rated: +1Vote for this!
DiscoveryChick	Posted Aug 13th, 2009 at 1:27PM He's either a liar or a coward. Forget about him. Rated: +1Vote for this!
susan09	Posted Aug 16th, 2009 at 8:40AM I have to say that he is problaby scared....scared of going to war an fighting...maybe hes not just thinking of himself maybe hes trying 2 think of ur feelings also an he knows it would be hard to 4 u 2 wait so he wanted to end it so if u didnt wait he wouldnt be crushed but if u are still waiting when he get back he will be happy and not have expectied u to be there 4 him Rated: +1Vote for this!

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