Why did my cuzin make me hold his crotch when I was 5 and he was 14? Should I tell and adult?
10 Answers to "Why did my cuzin make me hold his crotch when I was 5 and he was 14? Should I tell and adult?"
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From your writing style, it is clear that you are an adult. Please discontinue pedo images in your questions.
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I'm not an adult. Look at my profile. It says 13-15
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Stuff like that went on with my brother and I when I was ninish and he was 12. It's not all that uncommon but ours went a bit beyond just holding his crotch and it's the root cause of some of my issues that I need to work out in
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Yah. That's all he did I don't think it's that bad but... I just want to talk to him but I'm most likely gonna freak out and won't tell him.
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Talking about it would probably be healthy in some ways. Depends how he grew up and his reaction. A year after the stuff with my brother I went to him and talked to him about it and then told him we had to talk to our parents. If it's bothering you you need to figure out a way to work it out. I would talk to him first probably. If he's grown up into a halfway decent individual he will probably apologize. Though I know talking to him sounds easier than it is. I sometimes feel I need to talk to my brother now that we are adults but haven't ever done it.
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you should tell an adult as it does count as sexual abuse although you said earlier that you did not want to tell an adult? so why did you post this?
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I wanted advise. Wait it's sexually abuse when I just touch him??? He never touched me though.
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I'd say just be glad it wasn't worse than that. But, if you know he is still doing it now, I would confront him about it, and if he won't listen to you, bring it to the attention of the adults in the family and let them deal with him.
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He's not doing or now. It was only 2
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If it truly bothers you today for whatever reason, confront him about it face to face on how uncomfortable it made you feel and you did like it. You can probably also throw in that you understand you both are young still, but that's still no excuse. Hopefully he'll understand and you both can find a new respect for each other.
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I am getting an ugly feeling from this. I fear you are the *cuzin* and not the 13-15 year old girl. If I'm wrong, I apologize in advance. I am just getting the feeling that you are the 14 year old, boy who is presently touching a 5 year old cousin. Please, if you are, just talk to someone and stop what you are doing.
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I'm not. I know it may seem like that but I am 13. He did that really I was 5 and he was 14
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If you feel you need an answer of some sort, then I'd confront him about it.
I was molested by an older cousin when I was young....I know why he did it, and frankly, all I'd like to do is punch him a few times. I suppose it's good that I haven't seen him since I was a child.Like (1)
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Did he make you touch flesh? Or was the touching over his clothing? If the first, you should confront him, and at least warn him that he better not be doing anything even close to what he did to you to another young girl, lest you turn him in.
If it was over his clothing, and/or if it was just a quick passing thing, you'd be better off to just forget about it and let it ride.Like (1)
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No touched the actual skin. I touched skin. I held it for like a minute. I was Intriqued cuz I had never seen anything like that before.
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Yes you should he could be doing this to another girl..
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He not. I know it was just his hormones raging. He'd not 14 anymore and I know he's not.
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He wouldn't tell you sweetie if he was you can never be to sure..But hopefully he's not
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Did he do anything aside from that, that one time?
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Well it was like Thanksgiving. And he did it once in my brothers closet and once in the garage. It's not like he raped me though. I just really want to ask him about it.
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That'd probably be pretty awkward. Do you know if he has done it to any other children or if anything like your experience happened to others as he grew up?
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Posted by Oddandsingular Jul 22nd, 2012 at 1:02PM
My 2 male cousins did similar things to me when I was 7 ad they were 13 and 14. There was no official rape involved but I knew what they did was wrong. It was hormones. I knew as we grew up that neither of them became pedos or did aything like that again. I told my mother when I was 30. She told her sister, the boys mother and bad feelings were created in the family for years after that. That was just my crazy family. If your cousin is a healthy person now, not a pedo,and he really was just a bag of teenaged testosterone at the time, I really don't see the point in telling the family now. If talking to him about it is something you need to do for yourself, you should.
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