Why didn't i listen to my family and friends to get married, now I am old and lonely?

getting married is like preparing a noose.
a certificate doesnt make you any less lonely.

well, its better than sharing your life with a monster, isn't it?

your not old!

Hey I'm 36-40 and I sure as hell refuse to believe I'm old. Go out and have fun. Don't do anything because someone wants to convince you to. Research pros and cons and come up with your own conclusion.

You think you are lonely because you didnt listen to your folks who have asked you to marry? Then you are absolutely wrong. What if you have married and you are still lonely? Marriage is not something thats going to determine the depth of loneliness in us but its our own self negligence. Don't sit at one corner and keep saying you are old and lonely. Get up from there, go out, meet people, participate in clubs, organizations, charity works and always be cheerful. Believe me, you will see changes in your life and will draw many eyes towards you :) good luck

I, in no way want to disavow your feelings of being lonely and thinking thinking of regrets. I did listen to my friends and family and marry a quite good catch at twenty. Too bad he was shock-treatment depressed, a fact that I didn't learn until I had two kids and he was biting on a piece of rubber. How could I know? He graduated from West Point at the top of his class. I worked my *** off for him for twenty years until his shrink told me that I had to leave him for the sake of the two sons. I did--not easy. Twenty years and he was crazy, but made a lot of money which shows you that people aren't so smart about the crazy people. So, unlike you old and lonely--I'm old and I'm lonely and my youngest crazy son at twenty told me he was going skiing with his friends for a week and told his friends he was spending a week with me. Then, he killed himself and rotted for seven fricking days before I found his ***. You think you feel bad darling? You got no clue. And in two years this is the first time that I could write this. That he was dead for a week and alone and my baby. I wish with all my heart that I'd taken my smart *** and never married or had kids. So, I'm old and lonely, but when I close my eyes and see my baby rotting for a week at twenty-- want to trade? Did you see Sunshine Cleaners? I lived that. They had to wear biohazard suits to take my baby out of his apartment and you are lonely I know, but this is the worst and it didn't happen to you and that--that is what you should think of--not the great life you missed but the horrible one that you avoided.

Most people I know are pretty lonely. Spouses get tired of each other after awhile. Then even though you are not alone... You are still lonely. That's really more sad and pathetic than just being alone and lonely. So go get some friends or social type hobbies and you won't be alone. You could get a foster child. That would keep you so busy you won't have time to get lonely. Heck, get two of them. You'll be begging to be alone.

Your cool just the way you are.

maybe you could adopt a child or a pet?

I didn't listen to my parents when they wanted me to find someone to marry... At about 37 or so years old I DID find THE RIGHT WOMAN - for I had always said to myself that they had to be right for me and believe in the things I believe in, or there would be bound to be trouble.

I got my Beloved, and we had a happy 34 years together until she got cancer and passed away from this life. But we did have a happy marriage together.

You NEED to find the right one for you. Let's hope you find them "in Divine Timing"!

Can we trade places, please? You can have my disaster marriage and I'll take your freedom.

Honestly, lonely is easily fixed. Nobody ever has to be lonely. Get out there, do the things you love to do and look around, other people love your favorite activities too. Say "Hi" to them.

tailor said it the best. Many here gave good responses and well just be happy. I was once married but 1000000000% miserable and finally divorced. I have been single for 20 years now and happy.