Why didnt i trust us before he got married, he's been married for 2 yrs & we have been dating for 18 months. i love him
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Posted by kindhearted777 Jun 14th, 2011 at 8:01AM
Ugh. Homewrecker. You're going to ruin that woman's life, (Although I dont know if shes much better off with him if hes being unfaithful in the first place) but regardless, why do you have to go messing around with a married man? There are plenty of single men out there.
im just going to the 'hes been marriied for 2 years and we have been dating for 18 months. i love him', but what do you mean by 'why didnt i trust us before he got married?'
p.s .. so you love him, what happens if he leaves the wife the the two of you run off together? i could imagine the thrill would be gone, no more secret meeting places, no more brief sexual encounters, and yall might find you liked all that (or whatever the two of you do) more than actually dealing with each other in a relationship.
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Reply by Inlove76 Jun 14th, 2011 at 7:35AM
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Reply by kindhearted777 Jun 14th, 2011 at 7:53AM
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Posted by LadyOutspoken Oct 25th, 2011 at 5:14PM
He doesn't want you, he is using you because your easy. If he divorces his wife and marries you, he will cheat on you....
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Posted by Brainyblonde Jun 14th, 2011 at 10:58AM
You are not in a powerful position in this relationship. You are the mistress. He will likely remain married. He probably does love you. But that doesn't mean he doesn't also love his wife and family and it is very rare for a man to get a divorce to marry his long time mistress.
There is a great book about these situations but I think it it out of print. Maybe Amazon would have it. The book is: All of The Best Ones Are Married by Marion Zola. She describes why women fall for married men and how it usually plays out in their lives.
You are doing a foolish thing by hanging in there with him. But I know you would probably die before you would admit it to yourself or do anything about it. Good luck.
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Posted by fatgirl77 Jun 14th, 2011 at 7:57AM
why didn't you trust him before he got married? maybe because you knew he was the type of guy who would cheat on his wife.
so you've met his family? does that include his wife & any children? do you spend time with him at his house, eat dinner with him & his wife, take shopping trips with her? does she know you are f-ing her husband?
let me tell you my experience. i started seeing this guy who had a girlfriend. we all worked in the same factory. at first we were just friends, he was very quiet, but he was able to open up to me, we talked about everything. after a couple months, he kissed me. we took it further than that, & had sex a couple days later. our 'relationship' lasted almost 9 years. he got married about 6 months after we started fooling around (without telling me), the entire time telling me how horrible his girlfriend was. he didn't tell me about any of the 3 times she got pregnant (miscarried once), i had to hear it from his family. i had met just about everyone in his family, he met several of my friends but not my family. i met his kids. we were very active in eachother's lives, as you say about this guy you're seeing. right up until he got divorced. then he started seeing this other chic, & that was the end of our 'relationship.' we have spoken once in the last 2 years. he says she knows about our history, & won't allow him to speak to me. i always believed he loved me.
my friend has been involved with a married man for about 3 years now. he keeps saying he will leave her by whatever month, but there's always an excuse as to why he doesn't. he has 2 kids, they play softball with my friends kid. they take trips together, go out on dates, & his wife has a pretty good idea whats going on. and yet, he's still married. i will be shocked to hell if he actually does ever leave his wife, but my friend is head over heels for him & convinced he will.
you ever see the movie, he's just not that into you? they talk about rules & exceptions & all that? in this case, the rule is that they don't leave, & the exception is the rare person who does.
get out of this trap. you could be missing out on something great by tying yourself to someone who's unavailable. if he really does love you, he should leave her before starting anything with you.
sorry for such a long reply :-)
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Reply by kindhearted777 Jun 14th, 2011 at 8:02AM
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Posted by tarquino Jun 14th, 2011 at 7:15AM
Erm, how do I answer this? Oh yeah, "USE YOUR COMMON SENSE" (and if you have any spare, send it to me please)..
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Posted by certifiable Jun 14th, 2011 at 7:07AM
Sounds like a keeper .
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Posted by Peter384 Jun 14th, 2011 at 7:06AM
love is blind and some men are dogs
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