Why not get drivers license to start....
I think the word "co-dependent" gets misused a lot. It basically means someone who stays in a relationship with an addicted person because he or she is getting something out of that addictive behavior even though they themselves are not abusing any substances. That said, you need to talk things out honestly with your boyfriend. Either you both work to fix the issues or you call it quits.
Look, a relationship should never be about keeping score. He agrees to drive you somewhere so now you OWE him? That's not love in my book. You do nice things for people you love because you get satisfaction out of seeing them be happy. Hate to say it, but it sounds like he doesn't love you. That said, why not learn to drive? Even if you don't get a car right away, just having your license and being able to drive yourself will help you become more independent. These days they even have these "shared car" things you sign up for on the Internet. You can get the use of a car when you need it for a fraction of the cost of actually owning, insuring, and maintaining your own car.
Only you can decide that. I would talk things through with him first. Maybe he has good qualities that balance his negative ones, I don't know. All I'm saying is that a relationship isn't supposed to be about keeping score, but, with that said, I have a feeling a great many people don't automatically see that keeping score can kill a relationship. Maybe pointing out to him how he is making you feel might be enough for him to want to turn things around. Good luck, whatever happens.
It's interdependence that's the answer. If he throws something (even an opinion), it's time to go.
Wow, I agree about interdependence being good, but you lost me with the rest of the statement. You would actually leave someone for expressing an opinion different than your own? That's a pretty tough thing to find someone who agrees 100% on everything. What if he just wants pizza when you feel like chicken, or wants to watch a different movie than you do? Where do you draw the line at which different opinion is important enough to break up over?
Hi there - yes I was not clear when I read what you said. I meant a negative and disparaging opinion that hurts you. If you point it out and he continues doing it, it just might mean that he enjoys it. Yes of course it's different story if he wants to eat turkey (and you want pizza or chicken) or wants to watch a different programme. That compromise, but it ain't nothing to do with hurting someone. "How much he does for you, pays for you" is insulting. He either wants to do that, or he doesn't.
You ask why and it's becuase you allow you it. If they offer, you quickly take advantage, but sometimes deep inside they can be really annoyed even if they don't express it. Try saving up to buying a second car, or try public transportation.
That's not cool of him to refused your offerings and remind you of what he done for you. It can damage the relationship like that. Best thing to do is stop offering to pay because I think he feels emasculated. He loves giving you things and feel like a man. Why don't you take up driving lesson or get him to teach you? <br />
Another idea, take him out for dinner or ice skating or somewhere and you pay for it. You could say to him, my treat! but avoid paying for things when shopping . Hope this helps.
stp doing it or wear a face mask
"I hate it because it's throne back in my face later..I want to stop!"
get it now?
The fact that you use the word THRONE would suggest a subservient person, you.
You didn't get it did you. You said THRONE, not thrown. Freudian slip.
The bottom lne of course is if you don't like what he does, why are you still there?