Why do bad things happen to good people.

The world view you are asking from is idealistic. Be it karma, God, afterlife, of whatever, something eventually balances the moral world. The way to understand why good things happen to bad people and why bad things happen to good people is to step outside that framework. Consider a world where morality is unbalanced. There is no reason it should ever even out. You do your neighbor a favor and she forgets. Your friend cheats on a test and passes a class while you are held back for doing the right thing, but gain nothing from it. Or you are a thief who is exceedingly clever, never gets caught, and gets a paycheck without helping anyone or anything. What gives? Nothing gives. Nothing was in the way in the first place.

The way I like to rationalize this (because we humans have an overriding need to feel like we get our just rewards, even if it's illogical) is to consider mental health in the equation. I am happier for not cheating on tests, stronger for taking the hit someone else deserved, more confident having had my secrets told and my weaknesses revealed. I am more self-sufficient because I have faced hardships someone else hasn't.

Sometimes this doesn't work. College apps was one of those times; I watched a girl with great confidence and leadership, and a ton of money, but small brains discuss whether she should go to Harvard or Yale after being accepted to both; I, who am dedicated, hard-working, very smart and a kind person, wasn't accepted to most of the placed I applied to. So I had to dig deeper to find my reward. It turns out I needed a small-school atmosphere and would have hated the cutthroat competition and money-flaunting that occurred at the Ivy League schools. I can't stand classism and would have made plenty of enemies there. Plus, I now have leadership positions within my smaller school that I never would have gotten at a big school because my talents wouldn't have been recognized in that setting. The bad things sometimes can be genuinely unfair and wrong, but there should always be some silver lining that you can choose to make the more important part of the event.

If you choose to satisfy your need for fairness over your need for logic, always tell yourself: "If not this, something better" whenever you lose out. It won't be obvious, but you'll find a reason why you shouldn't have gotten to go on vacation because you were puking all over. Maybe the car would have crashed, maybe you would have gotten food poisoning on the road, maybe the house would have caught on fire when you left the kettle on. You can make up such reasons but they should fill the gap you're pointing out.

Alternatively, since there is only one world you live in, you can imagine that it is the best of all possible worlds. Imagine that if the unfair event had gone differently, something somewhere wouldn't have worked out. Doesn't matter what. I hope this helps you cope, and perhaps that it interests you in philosophy. There's lo

ALOT OF PEOPLE JUST TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU. I KNOW THAT I AM A VERY GOOD PERSON SOMETIMES I THINK TOO NICE. I WANT TO MAKE OTHERS HAPPY. IF I HAVE SOMETHING THEY NEED AND THEY ASK ME FOR IT, I WOULD ALWAYS GIVE IT UP. I DO UNTO OTHERS AS I WOULD WANT THEM TO DO UNTO ME... SOME PEOPLE DON'T EVEN CARE.

there is a book with that tittle. find it at your local library.

i THINK BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO BAD AND GOOD PEOPLE, BUT BAD PEOPLE SEEM TO BEAT IT WITH MORE BADNESS WHILE GOOD PEOPLE ACCEPT IT AND HOPES TO GET THROUGH IT.

i think good and bad things happen to both good and bad people.

Because natures abhors happiness.