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I don't usually turn to internet strangers for advice, but I have no one else to turn to. I don't know what's wrong with me. I have the best life anyone can ask for. I'm 21 years old, I have a wonderful husband who loves and adores me with his whole heart, I'm attending college and I'm a good student. I don't really want or need for anything. Despite all of this, I still have this agonizing sadness inside of me that just won't go away. It's even hard to get up in the morning because I feel so sad. I cry a lot and I can't really identify why. I can't find any hobbies that interest me and I've never really had any close friends other than my husband (even before we got married he was my best friend). I've never really felt this way before. I've always had some anxiety problems but this is so much worse than that. In the last four months I've gone through a lot of change. I moved out of my mom's house, got married, etc. Maybe I'm just adjusting? I feel so lost.
sammy0415 sammy0415 18-21, F 10 Answers Oct 13, 2010

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Your a brave one for trying this.<br />
I can supply you with a myriad of my reasons for saying this,<br />
maybe one reason is I might risk my life on an almost daily basis,<br />
that's not a bad relativator for me;<br />
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This medium is evaporative, don't overrate it.<br />
Think less, do more.<br />
Don't analyze your life to bits, use your imagination to good.<br />
Breathe, dance.<br />
Balance getting by giving.<br />
If all else fails, pop over to Somalia or Pakistan and help out in a few refugee camps,<br />
after a few days you'll burst your bubble.<br />
Don't be a statistic.<br />
Eat healthy. Drink water.<br />
Good luck

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It's always easy to say you need to speak to a doctor...or a psychiatrist...but i dont believe in getting councelling for something you can possibly solve yourself...<br />
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What I can suggest is, every time you feel sad or depressed, break it down...had anything happened that day, or did anyone say something to you that could have made you question your lifestyle or something about you? Did you observe anything that could have subconsciously upset you?<br />
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Think about your past as well, don't leave it to rot in your mind...don't store it away, question it...understand yourself before seeking help...because what you tend to get when you receive councelling is some annoying shrink who sits there and tilts their head, trying to get you to understand yourself....asking you to look into yourself...when you wouldnt be there if you could do that.<br />
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So yeah...break things down bit by bit....are you happy with how your life is? Is it your lack of close friends that is causing you to be upset? if it is, then maybe you should try and find some people to engage with...maybe socialise more...go out...have some time off work/college...(unless it would lead to problems)...take a break from your current life...not necessarily from your husband...you can involve him too...but you wanna do something different that you'll enjoy.<br />
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I know it's hard to find a hobby, because there are soo many things that you think others would be better at and you dunno where to start....maybe they don't interest you at all...but try to go out a bit more....meet some new people...it may be that you're bored of having a schedule, a routine...you might wanna break it a little.<br />
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Let me know how it goes yeah?

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Too much things on your plate far too soon.. better to know now or never...it is normal and you are perfectly ok. If I were you, I will keep doing what I am best, reduce the pressure from analyzing things too much and increase the inner pleasure by giving more to yourself and love one.<br />
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Try mountain bike with your hubby or group of friends. It is physically and mentally challenged. You need to have both of that in balance plus your spirit too if you are religious - pray!

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EP is as good a place as any other for advice. I would suggest that you may not have learned how to be your own best friend and cheerleader yet. Sometimes people achieve wonderful lives at an early age and then feel guilty because deep down they don't believe they "deserve" it.<br />
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The answer is always always always to learn to value yourself, not for what you have, or who you know, or what you have achieved or attained -- but simply because you exist. That is reason enough. You don't have to prove anything to anybody or even to yourself. Happiness and love are their own rewards.<br />
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There's my two cents worth.

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If you find an answer, please tell me :)

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It may well be an imbalance in your body, but that is unusual if you are young, fit, healthy and haven't had any bits taken out. Go to your GP for a check and mention this feeling of emptiness. Most ladies with an adoring husband would not feel that way so there may be something amiss.

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It sounds like clinical depression. I would see a doctor, or just talk it over with your husband. No one should be unhappy like that, changes or no. Best wishes.

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I feel exactly the same as this. <br />
Im 18, Im at university, I have a fantastic fiance, hes my only main friend really, i dont have anyone else i can talk to. <br />
Recently our relationships been strained by me being miserable,angry, and lost most of the time. Im tired most days, don't care about doing anything, just sit in my room and watch tv (its effecting my work) But the odd day I do everything, I clean everything, do loads of work, feel really good. But i never sleep well.<br />
My partner has been in the RAF for a year and lives 3 hours away, Im at university and left home in september, and have always been quite loney so thought this was why. <br />
Looking back ive noticed ive gotten worse as ive gotten older. <br />
Any clue whats up with me? Or is this usual?

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